She’s Had To Go To Great Lengths To Get Some Time To Herself Since Moving In With Her Boyfriend, And He’s Beginning To Get Upset
If you live with someone, you’ve most likely had a moment when you needed some personal space but couldn’t get it because of your partner or roommate.
One woman has had to go to great lengths to get some time to herself since she moved in with her boyfriend, and she’s been upsetting him.
She’s 35 and has been with her 38-year-old boyfriend for seven years. About a year after they started dating, they moved in together.
Her boyfriend works a traditional 9 to 5 job Monday through Friday. She takes on different contract positions, so her weekly schedules vary.
“I’m an introvert, but I work with lots of people and basically always have to be ‘on’ at work, so I absolutely require time to myself to recharge,” she said.
During the early days of their living together, she would schedule her days off on weekdays to have the house to herself and enjoy some alone time. But once her boyfriend knew what day she was taking off, he wouldn’t go to work that day either and would call in sick or work from home.
Whenever she tried to confront him about this issue and explain that she needed some alone time to recharge, he would get super defensive and offended, even though she emphasized that it wasn’t anything personal.
Things got worse when the COVID-19 pandemic came around, as he began working from home full-time and hasn’t returned to an office.
“He gave up some of his hobbies as well, and it feels like he never leaves the house anymore,” she explained. “I still work contract work out of the house, but I know that I will have virtually no time that is truly to myself when I’m home.”
Pixel-Shot – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
It’s gotten so bad that she began taking on more errands like grocery shopping all by herself to have some alone time.
Still, whenever she expresses that she’d like to be in a room alone for a few hours, he gets angry and dismissive of her needs.
Now, she has to do whatever it takes to have a moment to herself.
“I frequently wear earbuds around the house, sometimes not even playing anything, to cancel out some noise,” she added.
“If I’m in a room alone and he enters without an obvious plan to interact with me, I’ll get up and move to a different room where I can continue to be by myself.”
Instead of asking her boyfriend to leave a room she’s in, she takes it upon herself to get out of there. When she does this, her boyfriend thinks she’s being passive-aggressive and gets frustrated at the idea of her being mad at him. In the end, she simply wants some space.
Do you think she’s being passive-aggressive or doing what she needs to do for herself?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
If true crime defines your free time, this is for you: join Chip Chick’s True Crime Tribe
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
More About:Relationships