He Might Dump A Woman He’s Dating Because She Never Offers To Pay For Their Dates
Just a few weeks ago, this 28-year-old guy met a woman, who is also 28, on a dating app. So, they got to talking, and they ended up going out on three dates. He felt like everything had been going great so far, too.
Well, except for one specific detail: apparently, the woman has never once offered to pay. It all began with their first date, which cost about $60 overall.
“Which I paid, of course,” he recalled.
Then, for their second date, he went out to eat with the girl. And the bill wound up totaling about $80.
So, when the check arrived, he decided to pause for a second. But the woman did not say anything, and he was forced to ask how she wanted to proceed.
Still, he detailed how the woman just did not respond. That’s why he wound up asking if she wanted to split the bill with him.
For their third date, which came out to approximately $100, the same thing happened, too. So, by that point, he figured it was time to “address the elephant in the room.”
More specifically, he decided to just ask the woman upfront how she felt about paying for dates.
After sparking this conversation, they discussed the topic for a pretty long time, too. But, he claimed they never really reached a conclusion or mutual understanding.
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The woman told him that she found it attractive when men paid for dates and thought men should cover the tab to “show interest” in the women they’re dating.
Then, he essentially responded with the opposite– explaining how he finds it attractive when a woman offers to split the tab since it shows she is really interested in him and not just his money.
“To me, a relationship should have both people on equal footing and both contributing equally,” he said. “And if I get a girlfriend, I want to feel like I earned her, not bought her.”
That’s why he is now feeling pretty conflicted about his budding relationship with this woman. On the one hand, he really does not want to stop seeing her over this situation since they’ve gotten along great in every other way, and he is actually starting to really like her.
But, on the other hand, he just does not want to be in a relationship where he is always expected to cover the tab.
“Especially since she has a good job and probably makes just as much money as I do,” he vented.
So, he’s now trying to figure out if his stance on paying is unreasonable and whether or not he should break things off with the woman.
Do you think both he and the woman have valid stances on paying for dates? Does it sound like they are just not compatible? Do you think he should continue dating her or not?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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