A Lot of Women Are Finding Comfort In Post-Break Up Routines Being Shared On Social Media
Coping with your feelings after breaking up with someone looked much different ten years ago than it does today. Why is that? Social media, of course.
Back in the day, it would sometimes be difficult to find someone you could relate to or turn to after going through a rough breakup. Many people, women especially, felt forced to suppress their feelings and reactions or make everyone around them believe they were okay when they weren’t because not as many people around them were candid about how brutal it is.
As time went on and the internet evolved, we could eventually do a web search or two and find a few self-help articles on how to get through a breakup, but there was still that missing piece. It was still difficult to feel really seen during that period of struggle.
Enter TikTok, influencers, and a new wave of vulnerability.
Women on social media platforms like TikTok and YouTube have found a lot of comfort and even success through filming content that showed very vulnerable sides of themselves. A rising social media trend is sharing day-to-day ‘post-breakup routines,’ where people, often women, document themselves and how they cope with their difficult emotions after splitting from someone.
Breakups are no longer being kept secret or talked about discreetly. Instead, they’re being embraced and explored.
For instance, fashion and lifestyle influencer Heather Hurst (@pigmami) has been candid with her viewers about how she’s been doing since going through a breakup and moving to New York City from Washington, D.C.
Heather recently gained some admirers when she made a TikTok video detailing her ‘post-breakup tradition,’ where she says she takes herself out to dinner, puts a lot of effort into her beauty and outfit to make herself look better than she feels, listens to Mary J. Blige and does some journaling at a bar where she orders anything she wants.
“Proud of you,” commented a TikTok user on Heather’s video.
Pixel-Shot – stock.adobe.com- illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
“Because my tradition is spent in the bed hysterically crying.”
Heather responded to this comment, saying that is what she did after she got home from her solo night out.
While Heather’s post-breakup routine involves more lavish rituals to try and make herself feel better, other content creators have shared the darker days and moments of a breakup, filming themselves putting makeup on for the day while wiping tears from their eyes.
Other creators like Lisi (@lisirenaa_) have been vulnerable in filming the state of their homes and bedrooms after a breakup, which is often in disarray.
In one of her videos, Lisi can be seen cleaning her messy apartment two months after a breakup, inspiring her viewers by telling them that the “healing process is hard” but she’s taking things one day at a time.
“You got this girly!” commented one user on Lisi’s video.
“Stay motivated. You motivated me, that’s for sure.”
If you’re looking for tips on coping with a breakup or simply need to see someone go through the same heartbreaking process as you, there is a big sisterhood on the internet trying to heal together. The post-break-up routine trend seems to be an example of the internet adding some more unity to our lives.
@pigmami my breakup tradition – take myself to dinner, try to look better than i feel, listen to MJ, & fervently journal at the bar ordering anything i want #grwm
If true crime defines your free time, this is for you: join Chip Chick’s True Crime Tribe
After Her Coworker Stole From Her, She Tattled On Her To Her Boss
She’s A Talented Musician Who Would Up Missing After Being Evicted From Her Beverly Hills Apartment
She Was The First African American Woman To Open Up A Bank In The United States
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
More About:Romance