He Told His Wife She Needs To Consider Lowering Her Parenting Standards So She Can Be Less Stressed Out
It’s hard to find a set of parents with the same beliefs on all aspects of parenting. While that’s normal, it’s disappointing when parents can’t agree on the same standards and one parent puts in more effort than the other.
One man recently argued with his wife after telling her that she needed to lower her parenting standards after she became stressed by all the work she had to do.
He’s 38 and has three kids with his 37-year-old wife. Their eldest is 12, and they also have a 10-year-old and an eight-year-old.
His wife is constantly overwhelmed and stressed by everything she does for the kids. While he is “happy” to help out around the house, he believes his wife is stressed because her standards are too high.
His wife typically wakes up around 6:45 a.m. each weekday to get the kids ready for school and make them breakfast before they have to get on the bus an hour later. He told his wife he thought this was unnecessary, as their kids are old enough to get up and make themselves bowls of cereal.
However, his wife believes their kids should eat a more substantial breakfast and, therefore, gets up to cook for them. Additionally, she likes to see them off and kiss them goodbye before they get on the bus.
“So she gets up, I don’t, then she gets upset that I never give her a morning off when all she needs to do is just take the morning off when she wants and let the kids handle themselves,” he said.
His wife also gets stressed out about their kids and screen time. She wants to enforce a strict limit of only two hours of screen time daily and often has to argue with their kids about it. Instead of defending her rule, he believes that as long as their kids get their homework done, they can look at screens for as long as they want.
“I agree they should enjoy other things, but [I’m] not seeing why we have to make such a rigid limit,” he explained.
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“She also likes to get out on weekends and do stuff like zoos, museums, etc., but then complains about the planning for the outing and how grouchy the youngest gets by the end of it. Again, I say let’s just chill at home, and voilà – you’ve cut the work!”
For these reasons, he believes his wife is digging herself holes that are too hard to get out of. He thinks she shouldn’t be doing as much work or putting as much effort into their kids’ daily lives.
“She creates the stress for herself and then turns to me to alleviate it, which I think is unfair,” he added.
His wife gets upset with him whenever he tries to tell her she should be doing less for their kids, and now he doesn’t know how to improve things.
Is his wife doing too much work, or should he be putting in the same amount of effort?
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