He Wants To Leave His Wife After She Said She Couldn’t Care Less About His Kids
This 40-year-old man and his wife, 41, have been married for nearly two years. They got married after being in a relationship for only eight months because she got pregnant.
“I’m tired of being beaten over the head with red flags,” he said.
Luckily, there hasn’t been any infidelity within their relationship. However, his wife didn’t tell him about the $50,000 that she had gotten from her ex-husband when he refinanced the house that she and her ex had owned together.
“At the time, I was struggling to hustle between jobs while waiting for a new job to start (about a four-month wait), racking up debt, and being treated like a failure for asking her to pay her own car payment for the months I was out of work,” he explained.
When he and his wife got married, they joined their two families together. He has two children from a previous marriage, and they are 10 and 8-years-old.
His wife has two children from her previous marriage as well, and her children are 14 and 12. Plus, he and his wife now have their 10-month-old baby together.
Unfortunately, his wife’s children had a tough time getting used to the new situation after they got married.
Since her children were a bit older when his wife and her ex-husband divorced, they were more emotionally affected and have taken a long time to heal from that.
Sadly, his wife hasn’t been doing the best job at helping her children get accustomed to their new family.
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She often speaks negatively about his house and the city he lives in, and she makes these comments directly to her children. When she was exhibiting this bad behavior, she and her children were renting a one-bedroom apartment.
Currently, he has been allowing his wife to use his MacBook so that she can do editing for the photography business she owns.
A few days ago, he opened the computer, and once he was logged on, he noticed his wife’s iMessages were still visible. Then, he saw that a conversation between his wife and her ex-husband was open.
He glanced at the messages and immediately saw that she was talking about his children by name.
“What I read was a conversation with her ex asking about our family dynamic, as their son is having a problem with his new family dynamic. She played down her son being an issue and said it’s probably more his new wife since she’s so focused on uniting their family and pushes that, whereas my wife said, ‘I don’t try to connect the families. I put my kids and the baby first. I couldn’t care less about his kids,'” he shared.
Understandably enraged and revolted by what she said, this was the nail in the coffin for him in regard to their marriage. He felt ready to call it quits right then and there.
But when he asked one of his friends for advice, his friend said that what his wife said was a pretty standard opinion of how women feel about their stepchildren.
His friend continued, saying that women will always care more about their own biological children, claiming that a lot of women view stepchildren as just “some other woman’s kids that take away from theirs.”
Also, his friend pointed out that he needs to keep his baby’s well-being in mind.
Later, he questioned his wife about the texts with her ex-husband, and she was furious that he read her private messages.
However, she never said sorry for the things she said. After that, he gave his friend an update, and his friend supported his plans to leave his wife and focus on his own children.
He has decided to move out of the house he shares with his wife as he starts the divorce process. Throughout a lot of their relationship and marriage, he felt like his wife was gaslighting him, and he was sick of it.
Do you think he’d be doing the right thing if he left his wife?
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