She Doesn’t Want To Date Other Parents Even Though She’s A Single Mom Herself, And She Isn’t Sure If This Makes Her Hypocritical
This 29-year-old woman has a daughter who is 11-years-old, and as a single mother, her dating life has never really gone well.
Sure, she has fun, but she struggles with commitment– mainly because she just needs her own space. Otherwise, things in her life are stable.
“I own my home, I have a career, things are good,” she said.
She also goes on dates, hooks up with people, and has “situationships” nowadays. But she thinks there is one main issue– she just doesn’t want to have a long-term relationship with someone who has kids. Well, at least not until her daughter is all grown up.
By the time her daughter is 18, she will be 36. And she knows a ton of people who are only just settling down at 40 or 50-years-old.
“My entire view on age has changed in the past five years, and 36 won’t be old– even if my daughter waits a bit to move out,” she explained.
“Let’s say she finishes college first; 40 isn’t too old.”
Obviously, though, this plan limits her dating pool options. So, after thinking about her personal wants– which are mostly tied to space and not wanting to give up her hobbies, like gardening– she realized she wouldn’t want to date anyone with kids under 15-years-old. More preferably, anyone she sees would already have adult children.
In her eyes, she is nearly done parenting. And she doesn’t think she would want to start over or make room for another child at this point in her life.
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After all, she actually never wanted to have kids in the first place. However, her daughter’s father told her parents that she was pregnant before she even made a decision about what she wanted.
She has no clue why he did that, especially since he has not been involved in raising her daughter whatsoever. Regardless, she made the best of a tough situation.
“My kid is my favorite person, and we have a really great relationship. I’ve made it a point not to let my daughter suffer just because I didn’t want her. I love her,” she admitted.
Still, that doesn’t mean she would do it all again if she could somehow turn back time. She doesn’t even want to get another pet after their current one passes away.
Instead, she hopes to one day leave her home to her daughter, get an RV, and travel the country.
As she considers making not dating any other parents of young children a concrete rule in her dating life, though, she’s not sure if that would just make her a jerk.
Can you understand why she doesn’t want to get involved with other people who are parents at this point in her life? Is this hypocritical? Or does she have a right to date whoever she wants for any reason?
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