She Feels Terrible And Humiliated That She Can’t Afford To Attend Her Friend’s Destination Wedding
Last year, this woman’s close friend sent her a message to ask her if she would attend her wedding if it were in another country.
At the time, she said she definitely would because she thought that the cost of traveling to a destination wedding would be financially feasible for her and her partner.
This year, however, that changed.
“My partner and I just bought our first home, and things are very tight. The invitations to the wedding went out, and my friend asked me if I was coming,” she explained.
“I told her, in all honesty, the flights were around $1,100 plus lodging (implied: gift, good, other travel), that I was incredibly sorry but that I likely wouldn’t be able to swing it.”
“She encouraged me to reach out to her other friends attending and to ask if I could room with them and said her parents were covering the hotel for the two nights of wedding festivities.”
She told her friend that she would look into that, and she did.
“However, we have thousands of dollars in home repairs coming up. I work for a nonprofit, and my boyfriend works for a restaurant. We spent all of our savings on this house. It would be incredibly financially irresponsible of me to go to this wedding,” she said.
Two weeks later, her friend contacted her again to ask if she was going to make it. She sent her friend a thoughtful, kind, sincere message saying that she wished she could go, and if she could, she definitely would attend, but right now, unfortunately, she couldn’t afford it.
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“She immediately replied, ‘Did you reach out to my friends to see if you could room with them?’ She also started looking into flight prices to confirm them and send them my way,” she continued.
She had already done a lot of research on flights to see if there was anything she could afford, but she knew she couldn’t.
Even though she truly wished she could go to her friend’s destination wedding, financially, there was no way she could make the trip.
Now she feels terrible that last year she’d initially told her friend she’d be able to go to her wedding. At the same time, she’s a bit humiliated that she was so upfront about her financial struggles with her friend.
She also worries that her friend will feel like she’s not taking their friendship seriously, but she understandably doesn’t want to go into debt for this wedding. Her friend putting pressure on her to come to the wedding is causing awkwardness and tension.
She added that her friend and her friend’s fiancé were born in the country where they’re getting married, and some of their family members still live there, so she doesn’t think her initial agreement to attend had any bearing on her friend’s decision to have a destination wedding.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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