5 Signs That Mean You’re Just Not In Love
It Can Be Confusing To Know How We Feel About Someone
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Have you ever really liked somebody to the point where you were convinced you were in love with them? Then, after things settled, you realized you were more in love with the idea of being in love.
Sometimes, figuring out how we feel about someone is confusing. There are a lot of things we can mistake for true love. However, at the end of the day, we could just be attached to someone.
Here Are 5 Signs That Mean You’re Just Not In Love
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So, if you’re seeing someone right now and are wondering if you’re falling in love with them or are just really attached to them, see if any of these statements apply to you before investing too deeply in a relationship that doesn’t serve you.
You’re Scared Of Being Alone
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Does the thought of being without this person worry you? Are you scared that if you part ways with them, you’ll never be able to find someone else? A big reason why we may hold onto relationships or value them more than we should is because we’re scared of being on our own.
When you and your partner truly love one another and have expressed your love, you shouldn’t have to worry about them going anywhere.
You’re Settling With This Person
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Think back on the time you’ve spent with this person. Are there some red flags about them you’ve been ignoring or pushing aside? For instance, if you’re seeing someone who’s terrible about texting you back or never asks you questions about yourself, you have to wonder if that’s really the kind of person you’d be in love with.
Just because someone has stuck around doesn’t mean they’re worth settling for and forcing yourself to fall in love with.
You Still Get Nervous Around Them
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It’s totally normal and expected to have nerves or jitters during your first few dates with someone. However, if date #10 rolls around and you still have anxiety about seeing them or can’t relax around them, that’s not good.
Being in love with someone who loves you back means you can be yourself in front of that person. It’s hard to find true love or joy around someone who always makes you nervous.
Your Relationship Isn’t Growing
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If you’ve been seeing someone for a few months and there hasn’t been a conversation about the status or state of your relationship, that’s a sign that you’re probably sticking with them for the wrong reasons.
Sure, many people enjoy casual dating where they don’t put a label on anything for a while. But if you want a label and haven’t talked with this person about what you mean to each other, how will you ever grow? You don’t want things to go stagnant and sacrifice what you want in hopes that things will get better with this person.
There’s No Connection
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When you’re in love with someone, there comes a time when you feel like you could or have told them everything about yourself. Love comes with vulnerability and trust, and you should be able to emotionally open up to someone you love.
But if the person you’re seeing rarely talks about anything personal, is that love? You may love joking around with this person or talking about shows, movies, and sports with that person, but it’s hard to see how you can actually love them if you hardly know anything about them.
It’s hard to admit when you’ve been wrong about love. Being with someone who’s fun and excites you is an awesome experience that can be hard to let go of, but at the end of the day, you have to think about yourself in the long run.
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