Here Are 5 Ways To Cope And Move On From Situationships Gone Wrong
Have You Ended Up In A Situationship Gone Wrong?
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The following column is the opinion and analysis of the writer. Have you ever been in a situation where you dated someone for a while but never made things official? Then, when you broke things off, you were pretty upset and felt like you went through a typical breakup?
This means you were most likely in a situationship with someone, meaning you shared some good times together but were never able to define your relationship or become exclusive.
When Situationships End, They Can Be Just As Painful As A Traditional Relationship
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While many situationships drag on for longer periods of time, most of them end when one person feels more ready for a committed relationship than the other.
However, what some people fail to realize is that when situationships end, the breakup can be just as hurtful and hard to get through as a ‘typical’ breakup between an official couple.
Here Are 5 Ways To Cope And Move On From A Situationship
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It’s the worst when people dismiss your sadness or pain because the relationship was never official or exclusive. Breaking things off with someone you were physical with or spent a lot of time with is hard regardless, and you deserve to be able to grieve.
If you just got out of a situationship or broke up with someone you never got the chance to be official with, here are some tips for coping with it.
Face The Facts
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It’s time to acknowledge what your relationship with this person was and go from there. Don’t feel like you have to dismiss it or brush it off as a ‘silly fling’ if it didn’t feel that way to you. If there was a real connection and positive memories within that relationship, even if it was a situationship, it’s worth grieving.
You can look at it if the situation was different, too. If it wasn’t a relationship with any emotional depth and it was strictly casual with no deep connection, don’t let yourself get too worked up and acknowledge that you’re not losing someone who was super important to you.
Create Some Distance
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Nothing ruins breakup progress like staying in consistent contact with the person you’re breaking up with. To truly heal, you need to create some distance from that person. Let them know that you’re going through a tough time or that you need to focus on yourself for a while and, therefore, can’t keep in touch.
Continuing to text or even see each other after breaking up practically defeats the purpose of a breakup. It’s time to move on and let go, not keep them around.
Take Your Time
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Everyone handles breakups differently. You may have some people tell you that you need to be over your situationship after a certain amount of time, but that’s baloney. Try not to listen to others and take as much or as little time as you need to heal.
Don’t try and rush into something else or think you suddenly need to have your life together or start an exciting new endeavor immediately. Be patient with yourself!
Reflect On The Experience
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When I say you should reflect on your experience in the situation, I don’t mean you should sit around replaying all the good times in your head because that’ll probably make you feel worse. I mean, you should take the time to think about what you learned during your time with that person.
For instance, did you learn something about yourself? Did you learn more about what kind of relationship you might want in the future?
Switch Your Mindset
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While breaking up with your situationship may have you feeling down and out, once you can finally start seeing some light at the end of the tunnel, embrace it. Remember that you’re single again, so you have so much more time to focus on yourself and do what you love.
Switch into a positive mindset and look on the bright side of things. Now, you can pick up a new hobby or go out with your friends and not worry about finding someone else right away. Embrace a new era of self-care and growth. You’ve got this, and you’ll be just fine!
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