She Told Her Friend They Should’ve Seen Her Husband’s Affair Coming Because It Was With Their Closest Friend, Who’d Already Had An Affair With A Married Man
Since college, this 35-year-old woman has been friends with Julia, who is also 35, and Alex, who is 34.
The three of them were close, but over time, they expanded their friend to include seven of them in total.
Two years ago, they all learned that Alex was knowingly engaging in an affair with a married man.
“Her excuse was that he was unhappy, and that was why he was seeking outside validation. I advised her to stop it, and this is not healthy because he will not leave his wife. She didn’t listen. Rather, she accused me of being a bad friend,” she said.
Even though everyone in their friend group didn’t approve of Alex participating in an affair, they all believed that it was none of their business, so they chose to stay out of it.
She decided to do something about it when Alex didn’t heed her advice, so she reached out to the man’s wife and let her know what was going on.
The reason she knew who the man’s wife was was because he had introduced them.
Unfortunately, this caused all of her friends to turn away from her.
Julia was especially upset with her, arguing that when she contacted the wife of the man Alex was hooking up with, she was betraying her friendship with Alex.
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“She stopped talking to me because if I can betray a close friend of mine, then I can betray her as well. Alex was heartbroken because the married man decided he wanted to work on his marriage, so he broke things off with Alex,” she explained.
Throughout the ordeal, Julia took Alex’s side, and all of the other friends in their group ostracized her.
Several weeks ago, Julia called her out of the blue.
On the phone, Julia was sobbing.
“She was telling me that Alex betrayed her. She has been having an affair with her husband. And that she is heartbroken because she has supported her, and this is how she repays her. Even our friend group is divided,” she shared.
When she heard this, she was furious.
For the last two years, Julia refused to speak to her, talked poorly about her to other people, and claimed she was the one in the wrong throughout the situation when Alex was having an affair with a man she knew was married.
In response, she told Julia that she should have known that Alex would do this. She asked her why she would have assumed that Alex would be a loyal friend to her when she’d already shown that she lacked morals.
Back when she advised Alex to stop the affair, and Alex justified her actions, she knew that Alex lacked moral integrity.
While she wouldn’t describe herself as a religious person, she acknowledged that she respects and has empathy for others.
She wasn’t at all shocked that Alex had an affair with Julia’s husband.
When she told some of her friends about the phone call, they said that she spoke too harshly to Julia, and she agreed with them.
Despite the fact that she was only being honest, she wished that she had been kinder because Julia was going to divorce her husband due to his infidelity.
She feels empathy for Julia’s situation and the pain she’s going through, but she thinks that sometimes, friends need a cold dose of reality, which is what she gave her.
From her perspective, Julia needed to hear the truth, no matter how brutal it was, but she knew that she was so harsh with her because she was mad that Julia hadn’t taken her side when Alex had done something similar two years ago.
What would you have done if you were in her shoes?
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