She Didn’t Go To Her Friend’s Baby Shower And Gave Away Her Gifts After Realizing Her Friend Was Just Taking Advantage Of Her
This 28-year-old woman’s friend, who is also 28, has always struggled financially more than she has.
She never had a problem with her friend’s financial situation, though. The most important thing for her was their close bond, and she knew how precious that was.
So, she was always incredibly gracious, often footing the bill when she and her friend went out. Plus, she often would drive nearly an hour to hang out with her friend. Unfortunately, how her friend treated her constantly made her feel taken advantage of.
However, throughout their friendship, she never bragged about her financial status to her friend. She didn’t ever demand that her friend pay for her when they went out, either.
Sometimes, her friend would call her, asking if she wanted to get together, and when she arrived at her friend’s house, she found out that her friend’s vehicle had broken down, and the only reason her friend called her was that she needed a ride to go shopping and running errands.
At other times, her friend would promise to pay for the both of them when they went out somewhere, but once they got together, her friend would never have her wallet on her.
When her friend got pregnant, they stayed in close contact. Since they shared the dream of becoming parents, she was extremely happy for her friend.
During this time, she lost her job because the company she worked for went bankrupt, and the two of them got even closer than they were before.
However, when she accepted a new position three months later, her friend immediately became distant.
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In her opinion, her friend probably gave her the cold shoulder because she was envious of her new job.
Her friend hadn’t had any luck in her own job search and had been looking for a job for the last four years.
Despite her friend’s behavior, she continued trying to get in touch with her, checking in to see how her pregnancy was going and if she would be interested in hanging out. Every time, her friend either completely ignored her or wouldn’t reply for a week or more.
Before the holiday season, she reached out to her friend to find out what she wanted for Christmas, as well as what she’d like her to buy for her baby.
Her friend responded, letting her know that she wanted a Revlon curling brush hair dryer, and she provided her a list of baby-related items to give her some ideas.
So, she purchased the Revlon hair dryer and a ton of items for her friend’s baby, including diapers, clothing, and other essentials.
Luckily, with her new job, she is financially stable enough to make purchases like this for loved ones.
She had a ton of gifts for her friend, and she gave her a call to find out what her Christmas plans were.
Sadly, she was unable to see her family on Christmas Day, so she wanted to see if her friend and her friend’s boyfriend were free to come over to her place to celebrate together.
“She knew I was alone on Christmas Day. She said she and her boyfriend were doing something with his family,” she said.
“I was like, ‘Okay, that’s chill. We can meet up in the New Year.’ The day after Christmas, I see a lot of pictures of her and her boyfriend visiting one of his friends 15 minutes away from where I live. I asked her, like, why she didn’t tell me. She was like, ‘Oh, yeah.’ She forgot about me.”
From then on, she and her friend didn’t really keep in touch. Then, out of nowhere, her friend called her to find out if she would be interested in attending her upcoming baby shower, which was only a few days away, on Sunday.
In response, she said that her father’s birthday was that Saturday, so she already made plans to travel to visit him, and she didn’t have enough notice about the baby shower.
“My friend said my dad would understand if I left on Sunday because she needed a lift to the shower anyway, and no one could take her,” she explained.
“And she really wanted all the gifts that I bought. I asked her how long she knew about the shower.”
“She literally said, ‘Two months.’ So, I said I’d think about it. Proceeded to return the hair dryer and expensive baby toy.”
Also, she donated the diapers and clothing to a women’s shelter. After returning and donating all her friend’s gifts, she knew she was done with this friendship.
Later, she sent her friend a text, letting her know that she was unable to attend the baby shower, and her friend replied to ask when she would be able to give her the gifts she’d purchased.
“I told her I gave them away. I got 10 missed calls and many more messages calling me a jerk,” she shared.
“And I know how she needs those things. I feel guilty about giving the gifts away. Because I know that she is struggling to get a job and her boyfriend’s job doesn’t pay very well. So, all the diapers would have been needed. I have guilt about that.”
She clarified that she feels so grateful for what she has, and she has put in a lot of time and effort to become financially stable.
In addition, she went to college on scholarships and had to pay for everything those didn’t cover.
Her parents were never wealthy, but they made a bit of a higher income than her friend’s parents.
She is aware of how privileged she is and that she could find herself in difficult financial times quickly and easily, so she never takes her life for granted.
What would you have done if you were in her shoes?
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