She Flipped Out On Her Mom For Saying Her Boyfriend’s Autism Makes Him A Terrible Choice As A Partner
Have you ever had someone who doesn’t have the greatest relationship track record try to give you relationship or love advice?
One woman whose mother married a lousy husband recently had to shut her mother down after she tried to judge her current relationship.
She’s 25 and does not have a good relationship with her father, who she says is a horrible husband to her mother.
She and her brother grew up watching their father do nothing for Valentine’s Day, her birthday, or their anniversary. He’s never been considerate and doesn’t treat important events as important as everyone else.
For instance, only two days after her brother was born, her dad left her mom alone to attend a soccer event over a weekend. He downplays my mother’s emotions, laughs at her, and diminishes her work.
“We have talked so many times to our mom, telling her that this is unfair [and] our father is horrible to her,” she said.
“My mother is in full denial, even when he treats us badly. So, at some point, we decided that she was willingly where she was [and] we left it alone.”
For over a year, she’s been dating a man named Terry, who is the same age as her. They met at an after-work party and have been happy together ever since.
Terry has autism but is fully functioning and “masks” it very well. Occasionally, he gets overstimulated by certain sounds and lights, but that’s about it. Recently, she brought Terry to a winter village with her family.
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“At one point, too many people were talking, and they started to change the lights very quickly,” she recalled.
“So, Terry asked me to leave as he was standing up and already going out. I said we would see the rest back home, and we left. No problem, right? That night, my mother came to me and told me she was concerned about my ‘choice’ of a partner, and she was afraid that his ‘condition’ would make him a bad partner.”
She was appalled by her mother’s statements, especially considering she’s married to a man who can’t even remember her birthday.
She told her mom that Terry’s autism does not bother her and that he often does more for her than she does for him, so there was nothing to worry about.
However, her mother kept inserting her opinions, telling her she was worried she’d become Terry’s caretaker one day.
Even though she told her mother she was not and wouldn’t become Terry’s caretaker, it wasn’t enough to get her to stop.
“My mother kept pressing me, kept bringing up the same three lazy arguments,” she explained.
“Then, I blew up. I told her I would not take criticism of my partner choice from a woman who married my father. She told me I was awful, left, [and] has not talked to me since.”
While her brother understands her frustration, he believes she shouldn’t have said those things to her mom.
Was she wrong to point out her mother’s bad taste in men, or did her mom deserve to hear that?
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