She Snapped At Her Mother-In-Law For Always Defending Her Husband’s Awful Ex-Wife
When you marry someone who is still in contact with their ex because they have a child with them, things can get a bit messy and complicated.
One woman has been struggling to get along with her husband’s ex-wife, her stepson’s mother, for years and finally had an outburst in front of her mother-in-law, who is always trying to defend the ex.
She’s 42 and has been married to her 41-year-old husband for seven years. She has five children from a previous relationship, and her husband has two, including his 16-year-old son, Joey, who he had with his ex-wife, Gertrude.
Three of her children are grown up, and two are younger. She loves her mother-in-law, as she’s been very accepting of her and her children and has been a supportive figure.
However, she recently had an outburst in front of her mother-in-law after she tried to defend Gertrude.
Gertrude has never accepted her and has made it very clear she does not like her. Gertrude has inserted herself into her relationship with Joey several times, letting her know that Joey will never consider her to be his mom.
“Joey has always been treated like one of my own kids [and] I refuse to make him feel less than,” she said.
“I certainly don’t talk negatively about his mother anywhere around him. Gertrude has told me that anything to do with Joey and his dad is none of my business.”
“Sure, I get that. I’m not his parent. However, I will tell him no, assign [minor] consequences, [but will] not make any life-altering decisions in his regard. [It’s] normal step-parent stuff.”
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Gertrude has called her several times to argue about petty things. She constantly accuses her of trying to put a wedge between Joey and his dad, which she knows is not true, as she does her best to remain uninvolved in their family affairs.
Earlier in their relationship, Gertrude used to order Joey to throw jabs at her, telling her his mom’s cooking was better than hers and trying to make her feel inferior to Gertrude. Once she made it clear to Joey that she wouldn’t be giving in to all that, he stopped.
Unfortunately, her mother-in-law has been unhelpful during all this nonsense, and anytime she’s told her about her issues with Gertrude, she defends Gertrude. She always tells her Gertrude has had a hard life and is always finding a reason to bring her up.
The other day, she snapped and told her mother-in-law she doesn’t care about Gertrude and whatever she has going on in her life.
Her mother-in-law was “bewildered” by her outburst, and now she’s wondering if she was wrong to tell her that.
Was she wrong to say those things about Gertrude?
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