He Went Fishing On The Day His Ex-Girlfriend Gave Birth To Her Baby, And Now Her Friends Are Claiming He Should’ve Been There To Support Her
A year and a half ago, this 29-year-old man broke up with his now ex-girlfriend, Maria, 27. Their relationship wasn’t too serious, and throughout the time they dated, he expressed to her that he wasn’t interested in commitment.
At first, Maria was fine with this arrangement because she knew they didn’t have similar views or common values.
About 11 months into dating, Maria let it slip that she was hoping for a committed relationship leading to marriage.
He rejected this idea because he believed they didn’t have enough in common for a serious relationship to last, and he still stands by that.
After this conversation, he and Maria kept dating for several more months until Maria again broached the topic of marriage and having children.
She occasionally commented that her friends and family adore him and think they’d be a wonderful long-term couple.
Finally, he chose to end their relationship because it was clear that they weren’t on the same page, and he thought it was best for them to move forward with their lives.
Maria was crushed after he broke up with her, pleading with me to stay in touch, and he agreed. So, they’ve been good friends since he ended the relationship.
“Since then, Maria’s life has been through a downward spiral. She hasn’t gotten into any serious relationships (she’s been in many, but they’ve only lasted two months at most, and most of the guys were not very good),” he said.
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Unfortunately, Maria’s struggles caused tension between her and her parents. Maria said that she doesn’t talk to her parents anymore because of the way they started treating her.
She’d been in graduate school but flunked out, and she had a difficult time finding a job. Several months ago, she accepted a position but despises her job.
Then, Maria got pregnant, and the father was a man who later moved back to his home country of Austria.
He guessed that there was about a 60% chance that the man didn’t know about Maria’s pregnancy. None of Maria’s friends had a positive view of the father of her baby, often referring to the man as “‘some jerk.'” Her due date was last week.
“Leading up to the birth, Maria started calling me a lot, and she seemed very apprehensive. She told me that she was terrified of becoming a mom.
I tried to reassure her that she’d make a great mom, visited her several times in the past few months, and helped her out whenever I could,” he explained.
Last week, Maria gave birth to her child. That day, he went fishing with old friends with whom he hadn’t hung out in a long time.
The next day, one of Maria’s friends informed him that Maria had her baby, so he called her to say congratulations. Maria sounded tired while on the phone, but she appreciated that he reached out.
Days later, several of Maria’s friends started texting him, claiming that he should have been at the hospital for the birth of Maria’s baby since she was so terrified and didn’t have any family members at the hospital with her.
“She was hoping I’d come. One of her friends, Katie, 28, was particularly angry. She said that I needed to be more supportive of Maria since she felt alone, and I was abusing the trust Maria had in me,” he shared.
While he understood the importance of supporting friends, he didn’t think he should have felt obligated to be at the hospital for the birth of Maria’s baby.
Katie and another one of Maria’s friends were at the hospital with her, so she wasn’t completely alone.
He doesn’t understand what difference it would have made if he’d been there. Even though he hopes to have an amicable friendship with Maria, he doesn’t want to help care for her baby.
What advice would you give him?
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