She’s A Mental Health Therapist Advising People To Stop Worrying About Pleasing Everyone Because It’s Impossible And Isn’t Worth All Of The Heartache
It’s natural to want to be liked and respected. When people accept and approve of us, it makes us feel worthy, valued, and admired.
By nature, humans are social beings who crave companionship and connection to live fulfilling lives. Caring about what others think of us is just a part of how we build relationships.
But what if you’re placing too much value on the opinions of others, and it’s holding you back? Constantly bending over backward to make sure no one has a negative impression of you is exhausting and can take a toll on your mental health.
Vanessa (@dr.vanessaphd) is a mental health therapist based in Florida, and she’s on TikTok sharing a tip that will save you a lot of heartache.
She says that no amount of worrying about what others think of you is worth sacrificing your peace. You will never be able to please everyone; it’s just impossible.
It’s easier said than done, but working on accepting that some people will not like you or want to celebrate your successes will lead you to be an overall happier person.
You cannot control what others think, and your energy would be better spent focusing on things you actually have the power to change.
“When your thoughts or words or what you fear from the outside does not matter more than your peace that you feel right here, you got it,” she said.
Several TikTok users took to the comments section to share a little bit about their journeys toward rebuilding their self-worth.
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“This statement is deep…Changing my focus from external to internal is a real struggle. Old habits are hard to break!” commented one user.
“As a chronic people pleaser in recovery, I’m learning this. It’s so hard but also very liberating. Practice will make perfect,” stated another.
“Ever since I stopped caring what others think or say, I felt reborn and more alive,” chimed in someone else.
There is often no productive use for worrying about what others think of you. Unfortunately, in the day and age of the internet, we are left caring way too much about our images.
However, keep in mind that no one thinks about how you’re perceived as much as you do, and you’re likely judging yourself harder than anyone else is.
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