She’s A Single Mother Opening Up About How To Manage Resentment And Regulate Overwhelming Emotions As A Solo Parent
Single mothers are under a lot of stress because they often have to bear the weight of sole responsibility. The challenges they face on a daily basis can take quite a toll on their emotional well-being.
Life as a single mom is filled with ups and downs that may lead to moments of anger, frustration, and resentment.
Addressing these emotions will help with the healing process and forge a future that’s more hopeful and positive.
TikToker Amber Henry (@amberhenryy) is discussing how to manage feelings of resentment as a single mother. She also shares some helpful tips and strategies for regulating these emotions.
First of all, Amber emphasizes that bitterness and resentment are common emotions for single moms to experience.
There is no right way to feel about a situation, so the sooner you accept your feelings, the sooner you can overcome them.
She then gave an example of a time when she felt an overwhelming bubble of resentment toward her child’s father for having to carry the burden of childcare all by herself. On day three of trying to potty train her daughter, she started to get extremely frustrated.
She felt that it was a two-person job, yet she was doing it all on her own, with a huge lack of support from a partner, which was completely unfair.
That anger is understandable and valid. However, if left unchecked, it can be destructive and negatively affect your parenting abilities.
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Whenever you’re experiencing feelings of resentment, Amber recommends releasing it in a healthy way so it doesn’t stay stuck inside you.
For instance. she writes down messages in the notes app on her phone as if she will send them to her child’s father, but she doesn’t actually send them.
If you have the time, jotting down your feelings in a journal is also beneficial. In addition, going to therapy provides a safe space for you to express yourself and get those feelings off your chest. It truly takes a village to raise a child, especially in the times we live in today.
So, if you’re struggling as a single mom with no help from others, give yourself some grace and allow yourself to feel what you feel.
In the comments section, several single moms could relate to Amber and shared some of their most frustrating parenting moments.
“This is how I feel all the time like I don’t even want to be his friend because I’m still mad I’m doing it all by myself. He can’t even call his kids,” commented one mom.
“Mine was when I got her potty trained, and he took her for a holiday and brought her back in a pull-up because he couldn’t maintain the effort,” wrote another.
“I feel this as well. His dad is on his 5th vacation in a year. I miss travel, but I am a single mom, and it’s hard to get time to myself,” added a third.
@amberhenryy ? its totally normal to feel this way and i wish more people further along in their journey would talk about this! Finding healthy ways to cope & move through it is the goal ?? we got this ? #singlemom #singlemomsoftiktok #resentment #absentfather #momsoftiktok #copingmechanism #coparentingstruggles
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