He Won’t Let His Cousin, Who Just Lost Their Apartment, Move In With Him Because He Doesn’t Want His Family’s Routine To Be Disrupted, So He’s Getting Called Harsh
This 35-year-old man is currently married and has two young children. But his 32-year-old cousin Mark is now in a pretty tough financial situation, and he’s hesitant to help him out.
Apparently, Mark’s lease recently ended, and due to a combination of bad luck and poor financial decisions, his cousin wasn’t able to find another apartment in time. So, Mark was left homeless and asked to stay with him and his wife until he could figure something else out.
But, while he knows that Mark is a good guy, he also realizes that his cousin is more of a “free spirit.”
“Mark is the kind who’s into late nights, impromptu parties, and generally a bit more spontaneous lifestyle,” he explained.
“That was fine when we were younger, but with a family and a strict routine, it’s not really something we can accommodate.”
On top of that, his house isn’t exactly huge. So, adding even just one more person to the household has the potential to seriously disrupt their family routine and dynamic.
That’s why he ultimately decided to apologize to Mark and tell his cousin that staying at his home simply wouldn’t work for his family. Then, he also offered to loan Mark money for a new place and said he’d help him find one.
Still, after he made it clear that Mark couldn’t stay at his house, his cousin didn’t take it very well. First, Mark got super upset before accusing him of turning his back on his family when they needed his help the most.
“And Mark said he would never do the same to me and that family should always have each other’s backs,” he added.
Vadim Pastuh – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Thankfully, his wife agrees with his decision and believes making sure that their kids are comfortable and maintaining a stable environment for them is their top priority.
However, the rest of his family members haven’t been as understanding. In fact, some have even accused him of being too harsh and are trying to pressure him into letting Mark stay at his house for a little while.
“They’re making me feel like I’m the bad guy here for trying to protect my family’s routine and space,” he vented.
That’s why he’s been left feeling torn between protecting his family’s routine and helping out his cousin. He also can’t help but wonder if refusing to let his cousin stay with him after losing his apartment is really such a jerky move or not.
Can you understand why he wants his family to come first? Was it generous to offer Mark a loan and help finding a new place? How would you handle this situation?
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