His Ex-Wife Wants To Start Dating Again, But He’s Not Interested In Being With A Serial Cheater

Have you ever broken up with someone and then you took them back, even though they did something to hurt you?
One man’s ex-wife has been wanting him back, but he doesn’t want to get involved with her again because she has a history of cheating.
He and his ex-wife were together for years but officially divorced six months ago. Unfortunately, it hasn’t been the smoothest marriage, mostly due to his wife’s infidelity.
“Six years ago, she had her first affair; we had been married for two and a half years,” he explained.
“I decided to do what I thought was the right thing and tried to save the marriage, going as far as accepting all the blame she placed on me for her actions. The following couple of years were rocky, but we managed to find some peace and mostly mended things.”
Two years after the first cheating incident, his father fell ill due to cancer, which led to a very stressful period of his life. He was trying to make things work with his wife, all the while spending as much time with his dad as possible and emotionally supporting his mom.
The following year, after his dad succumbed to his cancer, he noticed his wife begin to pull away from him.
“I noticed my wife started to withdraw,” he recalled.
“She started acting differently and started going out with ‘friends’ a lot more than normal. I suspected she was cheating again, but I couldn’t find actual proof. [Then], last fall, she came back from a weekend with friends and said she wanted a divorce. I agreed because things never were the same after the first affair, and she had been acting distant again.”

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After he filed for divorce, his ex-wife admitted that she had been cheating on him throughout those last three years, which meant she was even doing it while his dad was sick.
Now that it’s been six months since the divorce, he’s been trying to get his life back in order, but his ex-wife has been coming back around.
“Recently, she’s been asking me, rather frequently, to move back in, to do couples therapy, and if we can start dating again,” he added.
“I keep refusing to do any of the above. I refuse to be with a serial cheater. She keeps saying that’s not who she is as a person, that I’m giving up on us/her, and that she regrets everything she’s done in the past. It’s really messing with me mentally.”
Instead of being able to move on cleanly, his ex-wife’s behavior is making it hard. Now, he feels guilty for saying no and focusing on himself.
Should he feel guilty for turning down his ex?
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