She Discovered Her Husband Was Constantly Texting Their 20-Year-Old Babysitter And Having Sleepovers, So She Wants To Separate
I’ve heard stories of couples with children who ended things because one partner got a little too close to their go-to babysitter, and it sounds absolutely terrible. This story is no exception.
One woman is considering divorcing her husband because she discovered he was texting their young babysitter behind her back and letting her spend the night at their house when she wasn’t there.
She and her husband are in their 30s and have been married for seven years. They have two young kids together, a five-year-old and a two-year-old. She loved her husband for a long time, as he was a devoted partner and a great father.
However, everything changed once they started hiring a babysitter.
They’ve had the same babysitter for years, a 20-year-old college student from their neighborhood whom she’s known for years.
“My family and children are extremely close with the sitter and her family,” she said.
“My kids love her, and she loves them. She accompanies us to community activities and also spends time with us at our home whenever she is home from school.”
However, some red flags started popping up a few months ago when she noticed her husband was getting especially close with their sitter. She suspected that her sitter had a bit of a crush on her husband for a few years but never thought anything would come from it.
She knew her husband and the sitter would exchange texts here and there, which she always assumed were related to their kids. However, the sitter then began asking her about certain family events and incidents she had never told her about, and it made her wonder how she was learning such personal information.
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“I asked her how she knew about them, and she responded that my husband was texting her when it happened,” she said.
“I found that to be really strange and somewhat inappropriate.”
Then, she found out that recently, her sitter had spent two nights at her house while she was working overnight. While it isn’t uncommon for her sitter to sleep over on occasion, since she’s so close with their kids, she found out that both nights, her sitter and husband stayed up after the kids were asleep and watched movies.
This really bothered her, considering her husband rarely ever wants to do anything with her once their kids are asleep. Yet suddenly, he wants to do it with their babysitter.
Then, one night, while her husband wasn’t near his phone, she saw a text from the babysitter and decided to look at his messages. She knew it was an invasion of privacy but couldn’t shake the feeling that something had been going on.
She discovered her husband and babysitter were texting each other every day, both initiating conversation and talking about various topics outside of their kids and her job. Her husband texted the babysitter more frequently than he does with her, which was especially hurtful.
“I found this constant communication to be super concerning and not okay for a married man to be engaging with a 20-year-old female, twenty years his junior,” she said.
“Never mind the power imbalance at play in a situation like this, given the age gap.”
She confronted her husband, who was immediately defensive. He said the sitter was like his family friend and that his contact with her shouldn’t be a big deal, especially since she texts the sitter frequently.
She couldn’t accept her husband’s “dumb” response and asked him if he knew any married friends who talked with their young babysitters as much as he did, and he said no.
“I asked if he thought their wives would be okay, and he said no,” she added.
“I let him know that I want to separate and live separately. He, of course, did not want this.”
She’s been ignoring her husband’s texts and calls for days and has been staying with her mom. She fears their relationship may not ever be the same after this and is considering ending their marriage.
Is she overreacting by wanting to divorce her husband, or are her feelings valid?
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