He Told His Wife That Her Body Doesn’t Look The Same As It Did Before Her Pregnancy, And Now He’s Worried He Really Hurt Her Feelings
Many women feel very sensitive about the appearance of their evolving bodies when they have a baby, as it’s an experience that can drastically change the way they look.
A man is feeling guilty after admitting to his wife that her body looks different after giving birth to their first child.
He and his wife are in their early 30s and have been together since his college days. In school, they were both cross-country runners and very passionate about fitness. His wife was especially into running and stuck with it after graduation.
“She generally just loves eating healthy and working out, and in the past, I was actually worried she was a bit too obsessed with her fitness,” he said.
His wife struggled with eating disorders before he met her, but she’s insisted over the years that it wasn’t a problem anymore. He’s noticed that his wife will eat what seems to be a proper amount of food, but she does tend to be super precise about counting calories and tracking her macros.
When his wife got pregnant and had their first baby three months ago, a daughter, he could see something shifted in her. She began refusing to change in front of him and became insecure whenever her body was mentioned.
Things came to a head over a recent weekend when he decided to surprise his wife with a trip to their favorite beach town for just the two of them. His wife was excited when they left, but she developed anxiety when they got to their hotel and asked him if he “expected” her to sleep with him.
He was taken aback and reassured her that he only wanted to spend time with her and wouldn’t pressure her into doing anything she wasn’t comfortable with. Then, he asked her why the idea of sleeping together made her so nervous.
“My wife told me she doesn’t look the same as she did before and feels ashamed,” he recalled.
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“I told her she’s beautiful and has absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. My wife then asked if I thought she looked the same as she did before.”
Because his wife went from having a six-pack and exercising every day to becoming a new mom, he knows her body did change to a certain degree, yet he doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with that.
All he hoped to do was tell his wife she looked gorgeous, but she continued to push him, demanding he answer her question honestly.
“I finally responded that her body had changed, but that was normal and healthy,” he explained.
“My wife started sobbing, and I immediately regretted saying anything.”
His wife began to go down a rabbit hole, asking him more questions about her appearance, seeing if he believed she was fat, and getting more paranoid by the second. He eventually told her to stop with the questions as he didn’t want to make any more mistakes or say the wrong thing.
For the rest of their getaway, his wife seemed very troubled, and she spent more of her time hiking and refusing to eat certain foods than relaxing and enjoying their free time.
When they returned home, he observed his wife becoming even more strict with her diet and exercise regimen, which concerns him.
Do you think acknowledging the difference in his wife’s body was a bad move?
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