Her Parents Expect Her To Drain Her Savings Account To Help Fund Her Little Sister’s Wedding, But She Cannot Afford That And Is Getting Called Selfish Over It
This 26-year-old woman named Amanda comes from a family that hasn’t always been well-off in terms of money. However, for the past few years, she’s been working hard to build her career and create her own financial stability.
“I’ve saved up a good amount of money, and I’m pretty proud of that,” she said.
Her parents, on the other hand, have still been struggling for a very long time. That’s why she has consistently tried to help them out whenever she can.
In the past, she’s footed the bill for things like groceries, bills, and even part of her younger sister’s college tuition.
“I didn’t mind because family comes first, right?” she asked.
Well, now that her sister Emma, who’s 22, is getting married, she feels like she has to set a financial boundary.
For some context, after her sister had just gotten engaged, she was approached by her parents, who asked if she could help fund the nuptials.
She didn’t immediately turn them down and instead simply asked how much money they needed. Yet, once her parents asked for a pretty big chunk of change, she knew she couldn’t do it.
Apparently, her parents wanted her to spend more cash than she already had saved up in her own bank account on her sister’s big day, and she was completely caught off guard.
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“I told them straight up that I couldn’t afford it, especially after all I’ve already contributed,” she recalled.
Well, her parents didn’t get that and tore into her. They claimed that she was the only person in their family who made “decent money,” so it was supposedly her “duty” to lend a hand. On top of that, her sister Emma accused her of being selfish for not agreeing to chip in.
“It hurt because I’ve always tried to be there for them, and now, they’re making me feel like the bad guy,” she explained.
To be clear, she said she’d be happy to help out with some smaller wedding expenses. She just couldn’t drain her entire savings account to pay for Emma’s wedding.
Even so, her family didn’t accept that, and all of them have been barely speaking to her ever since.
“I feel like they’re putting way too much pressure on me, and it’s not fair,” she vented.
At the same time, with everyone so angry at her, she can’t help but wonder if she is somehow “missing something,” and refusing to pay for her sister’s wedding really does make her a jerk.
Is it actually her “duty” to pay for her sister’s wedding? Or should the nuptials just be downsized if her sister can’t afford it alone?
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