She Told Her Brother And His Wife That They Should’ve Thought Harder About Their Financial Situation Before Having Children Since They Cannot Afford Them
For this 25-year-old woman’s whole life, she has been financially independent and worked extremely hard to build her own career.
Her 30-year-old brother, on the other hand, is in a different boat. He is currently married and has two kids – a 2-year-old son and a 2-year-old daughter. Plus, he and his wife have been struggling with money for years now.
“Probably because of their spending habits and lifestyle,” she said.
So, her brother and sister-in-law are constantly asking for financial help from family members. According to her, her parents actually enable that kind of behavior; meanwhile, she tries to keep her brother at arm’s length.
Well, just a couple of weeks ago, she wasn’t able to avoid her brother anymore.
That’s because, one day, he reached out and directly asked her for a whopping $3,000 – claiming he needed it to cover some bills for his children.
“He did not bother to elaborate on what expenses,” she recalled.
Given that, she said no. Then, she actually told both her brother and his wife that they should’ve thought harder about their financial situation before having kids.
While she might’ve been right, her brother didn’t appreciate her feedback. He wound up freaking out on her – accusing her of being heartless, selfish, and not understanding since she doesn’t have any children of her own.
Andrey Kiselev – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
In the wake of the blow-up, the rest of her family has heard about the situation, too, and now, there is a ton of tension. Her parents have apparently taken her brother’s side and are upset that she’s not “supporting family.”
“But I think it’s ridiculous that I’m expected to bail out my brother every time he makes poor decisions,” she vented.
“He chose to have kids, knowing full well they couldn’t afford it.”
Despite that, her mom keeps urging her to lend a hand for the “sake of her niece and nephew.” Not to mention, her family is making her feel like the bad guy for not assisting “innocent kids.”
All of this pushback has made her second-guess herself, and she’s unsure if she really is in the wrong here.
Should she be expected to foot the bill for her brother’s bad choices? Did her brother need to hear the truth, even if it hurt? Or was she too harsh?
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