She’s Only Been Married For A Few Months Now, But She’s Really Unhappy And Feels Like Her Husband Is Controlling Her Financially
This woman and her husband have been together for six years now, and they’ve always been incredibly happy.
According to her, they led a normal life. She and her husband have a blended family since they both have a few children, but things were “amazingly good.”
Yet, once they finally tied the knot around nine months ago, their relationship steadily went downhill.
It all began when she lost her full-time income about five months ago, and her husband told her to take a month off from work in order to recoup. She did, and literally, one month later, she found a new job that paid even better.
At that point, she and her husband made their first joint bank account. But unfortunately, her newfound position wasn’t as great as her old one.
She was suddenly required to adhere to a nine-to-five schedule every day; meanwhile, her old job allowed her to work 8:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m., so she could still handle the kids’ school pick-ups and drop-offs.
“Before accepting the position, we sat down and figured out what it would look like. I would do every drop-off, and we’d share pick-ups,” she recalled.
“Everything seemed to be organized and agreed upon.”
Well, after only four weeks, her husband claimed that he hated their new arrangement and didn’t want to do it anymore – especially since he earned double her hourly wage. He believed that he should be the one working, not her.
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On top of that, her husband was sick of arriving home from work and having to do housework. Apparently, he got used to her doing 90% of their household chores while she was working her previous job.
So, she was actually forced to quit her position and get a new job that pays terribly – only one-third of her husband’s salary – just because she could work in between school hours.
The worst part? She is back to doing all the school pick-ups and drop-offs, along with 95% of the chores. At the same time, her husband has begun complaining that she’s not contributing enough money to their household.
She broke down the numbers and revealed that she makes $600 per week, and her husband earns anywhere from $1,900 to $2,400 on a weekly basis. They definitely are not struggling with money, but he’s still trying to control her.
“Now, I can’t use that money for myself. Fuel for the car, and that is it. If I want to use it for anything else, I have to ask permission. Most of the time, I am told we can’t afford it,” she explained.
For instance, if she needs new shoes or new clothing, her husband will turn her down. However, when he needs something for his car, he won’t hesitate to drop $800 on it without consulting her.
“Yes, I understand he earns a significant amount more than I do. But I’m starting to feel controlled financially, and I am so, so unhappy,” she vented.
And given the fact that she and her husband have only been married for a few months, she has no idea where to go from here.
Have you ever been in a similar situation? What advice would you give her?
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