She’s The Last To Get Married Out Of Her Group And Feels Like Her Friends Are All Being Cheap Over Her Wedding
This 38-year-old woman will be marrying her fiancé, who’s also 38, next year.
But, she is the last of her friends to tie the knot, and she feels like they are all being cheap over her wedding now that her big day has finally come.
For some context, she’s been close with her group of five female friends since college, and they’ve been there for each other throughout every major life milestone – from breakups and work promotions to holidays, weddings, and babies.
Yet, while her friends were happy for her and sent her “congratulations” text messages when she shared the news that she was engaged, she still expected more.
“When everyone else got engaged, they threw them parties or went out to dinner to celebrate. They didn’t in my case,” she said.
The differences in treatment continued as she progressed with planning her wedding festivities as well. For instance, she gave her friends nearly a full year of notice regarding her bachelorette party – which she wanted to keep low-key.
She just intended to go out for dinner and drinks at one of her favorite restaurants in their city. Despite keeping it simple and giving her friends so much time to prepare for it, though, they have all begun to slowly drop out of the celebration.
Some have claimed that they can’t get a babysitter for the evening; meanwhile, others will supposedly have to work late or will be away on work trips.
The same thing is happening with her actual wedding as well, which will also be a small event. Apparently, one of her friends has already messaged in their group chat, saying it might be tough to find a babysitter.
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“My wedding is months away, and I’m finding it really hard to believe that my friend knows that far in advance,” she admitted.
“Two others have also said they’re not going to stay for the reception as they ‘will be tired by then.'”
However, she didn’t hit her breaking point until she sent a link to her wedding registry in their group chat, and her friends’ responses left her shell-shocked.
To be clear, she and her fiancé already have a home together, so they did not put any big-ticket items on the registry. Rather, they included smaller presents that all cost $50 or less.
Well, once she shared the registry with her friends, they replied that they’d all be chipping in to buy her an air fryer as a “group gift.”
The problem with this is the air fryer only costs $40, meaning her friends would be chipping in merely $8 each.
“Over the years, I must have spent thousands of dollars on their weddings, two of which were overseas. I have attended dinners and brunches to celebrate their job promotions and bought gifts for their babies, all the while feeling terrible about myself watching my friends celebrate the happiness I never thought I’d get,” she explained.
That’s why she was so hurt by her friends’ lack of effort for her own special day, and she decided to text back in their group chat – asking for clarification on whether they’d just be buying the one gift together.
One of her friends didn’t appreciate her question, either, and actually asked if she was calling the group “cheap.” Since then, their chat has been dead silent, too.
“That really wasn’t my intention, but it really feels like because I’m last, they’re just over having to do these events, and it’s really feeding into my insecurity about getting married so late,” she vented.
At the same time, she realizes her friends do have busy lives, children, and perhaps not as much disposable income as when they were younger.
This has pushed her to wonder whether she’s letting her insecurities get in the way or if she has a right to be upset about her friends’ behavior toward her nuptials.
Does it sound like her friends truly care about her? What advice would you give her?
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