She’s Thinking Of Backing Out As Her Best Friend’s Bridesmaid Since She Simply Cannot Keep Up With All The Expenses For Her Friend’s Fancy Wedding
This 28-year-old woman and her best friend, who’s also 28, have been close ever since they were in high school.
They’ve been through absolutely everything together, so now that her friend is finally engaged, she was asked to be a bridesmaid.
“Of course, I was super excited, and I said yes,” she recalled.
But, after the planning officially began, she stated to feel seriously overwhelmed by all the financial obligations that came with being in the bridal party.
Apparently, her best friend is set on having a giant, luxurious wedding – and her high expectations for the event are reflected in all the price tags.
The bridesmaid dresses, for instance, are $300 each – not including any alterations. Plus, her friend’s bachelorette trip is going to be out of state, and each bridesmaid will have to spend at least $800 on flights, hotel accommodations, and activities.
Then, there are other little expenses in between that keep adding up, such as the bridal shower and registry gifts.
“I’ve already spent a good chunk of money, and I’m starting to stress about how I’m going to afford the rest,” she admitted.
So, she recently attempted to share her concerns with her best friend and suggested that perhaps they could throw a smaller, more low-key bachelorette party.
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Well, rather than understanding where she was coming from, her friend just became super upset and claimed it was her “big day.” On top of that, her friend believed that because she was only going to tie the knot once, everything needed to be “perfect.”
The worst part for her, though, was when her friend basically tried to guilt-trip her – saying that as best friends, it’d be really hurtful for her to back out of the bridal party at this point.
She genuinely feels horrible over this and truly does not want to disappoint her friend.
“But I also can’t afford to keep spending money like this without putting myself in a tough spot,” she vented.
Now, she can’t help but wonder if backing out as a bridesmaid to save her finances would really be so terrible.
As the cost of weddings and related activities continue climbing, do you think it’s common for bridesmaids to feel like they can’t keep up with the costs? Should she do what’s best for her?
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