He Dumped The Girl He Was Seeing After Finding Out She’s A Single Mom
This 24-year-old guy recently met a great girl named Sarah, who’s also 24, through a mutual friend. He thinks she’s hilarious and smart, and they share a ton of interests, which made it super easy for them to “click.”
“After a few great dates, I thought we might really have something special,” he said.
However, just a couple of weeks ago, he learned Sarah had been hiding something from him. It came out that she was a single mother with a 3-year-old son.
Apparently, Sarah got pregnant young, and the father of her son wasn’t involved in their lives at all. Despite that, she claimed to have a very solid support system in place and believes she’s managing motherhood quite well.
“But honestly, I was caught off guard. I hadn’t even considered the possibility that she might be a mom,” he recalled.
He wound up telling Sarah that he needed a few days to think, and in the end, he realized he wasn’t ready to take on that kind of responsibility.
He made it clear that he had nothing against Sarah or her child. Rather, he’s just still figuring out his own personal life.
Anyway, once he landed on this decision, he wanted to be upfront with Sarah, so they met up to grab some coffee.
At that point, he told her that, while he found her amazing, he wasn’t ready to be involved with anyone who had a kid.
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“I explained that it’s more about where I am in my own life and less about her or her son,” he detailed.
“She seemed to understand, but I could tell she was hurt and disappointed.”
Then, once he called it quits with Sarah, their mutual friend heard about the whole thing and reached out to him. His friend stated that Sarah was really hurt and felt extremely judged by him.
She also felt like it was unfair of him to immediately dismiss her solely based on the fact she’s a single mom and that he could’ve given her a chance.
This has understandably left him pretty confused, as he thought it was best to be honest with Sarah as opposed to leading her on.
“But on the other hand, I hate the idea that I might have made her feel bad about something she can’t control,” he vented.
Now, he’s wondering if admitting the true reason why he wouldn’t date Sarah anymore was actually a jerky move.
Did he do the right thing by being transparent with Sarah? Could he have handled this any better or not?
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