He Told His Fiancée They Will Not Be Getting Married If She Keeps Insisting On Inviting His Estranged Parents To Their Wedding
When planning your wedding, you should only invite people who love and support you.
A man had to tell his fiancée that he wouldn’t go through with marrying her if she tried to invite his parents to their wedding, as he cut them off years ago.
He is 35 and in the middle of planning his wedding with his 28-year-old fiancée.
As soon as he got engaged, he knew he didn’t want his parents, including his mom and stepdad, to attend the wedding.
He has a rough family history, as his biological dad left when he was four, and his mom married a man who never treated him as if he was his real son and clearly favored his half-siblings.
“My mom never tried to fix the relationship, and honestly loved her new family and always saw me as a burden,” he explained.
“After my freshman year of college, my mom asked me not to come home anymore. I blocked her after that and have had no contact with her or my stepdad and half-brother since then.”
The only person he keeps in touch with from his family is his 25-year-old half-sister, whom he isn’t even that close with. They have stayed connected more as a formality.
This is why he is excited to start a new life and family with his fiancée, whom he met four years ago. She changed his life, as they had a great bond, and her family welcomed him with open arms.
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Unfortunately, there’s been some tension between them while planning the guest list for their wedding, as his fiancée asked him if he should invite his family.
“At first, I thought she was just trying to gauge if I wanted to,” he recalled.
“I said I would not be inviting my parents. She said okay but then brought it up again. I calmly explained how much they hurt me [and] how [I grew] up feeling unwanted.”
After reminding his fiancée of all the pain his family caused him, he hoped she would drop the idea of inviting them to the wedding, but she didn’t take the hint and kept bringing it up.
Things came to a head the other night when his fiancée told him she was thinking of inviting his family herself so that he wouldn’t have to do it.
He snapped and told her, in that case, they should throw all their invitations away because she doesn’t respect what he’s been through. Then, he threatened not to marry her before locking himself in their bedroom for a while.
“She came in to try to talk to me, and I walked out, grabbed my keys, and left,” he added.
“I came back after hanging with friends and sleeping on the couch. She left for work without a word, and I don’t know where we stand.”
While he loves his fiancée, he found her pressing behavior unacceptable. But now that she’s giving him the cold shoulder, he’s wondering if he overreacted.
Did he overreact to his fiancée’s request, or was his outburst understandable?
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