Her Brother Has Borrowed Thousands Of Dollars From Her, Never Pays Her Back, And Lives Way Beyond His Means, So She’s Refusing To Give Him Any More Money
Throughout this 30-year-old woman’s life, her younger brother, who’s now 27, has always been bad at managing his money.
He currently has a solid job, yet he spends all of his paychecks like they’re literally burning a hole in his wallet.
So, over the last few years, he has repeatedly come to her and asked for money. Sometimes, it was for rent; other times, he needed cash for car repairs or different “emergencies.”
“I’ve lent him thousands at this point, and I haven’t seen a single cent back,” she said.
Despite her brother making it seem like he’s struggling financially, though, he actually leads a much more lavish lifestyle than she does. For instance, he’s constantly dining out at restaurants or going on trips with his friends. He also always has the latest iPhone and doesn’t hesitate to blow money on designer clothing.
“Meanwhile, I’m the one cutting back on things, budgeting, and trying to save for my own future. It’s beyond frustrating,” she explained.
That’s why, when her brother asked for more rent money a few weeks ago, she finally put her foot down and said no. She made it clear that he needed to pay her back before she’d even think about lending him any more funds.
If you couldn’t have guessed, her brother didn’t take that well and became super defensive. He tried to claim she was acting selfish and that she should help him out, given how she’s in a better financial spot.
“But I’m tired of it. I feel like I’m enabling him to live irresponsibly, and it’s starting to feel more like I’m being taken advantage of than helping family,” she admitted.
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Their parents have found out about the drama, too, and they’ve actually taken her brother’s side. They believe she’s being too harsh and needs to cut her brother some slack because he’s younger and “still figuring things out.”
This really rubbed her the wrong way since she never received any financial assistance from her parents.
“And I think that’s why they don’t really understand how much it’s affected me, both money-wise and mentally,” she vented.
She realizes that, of course, they’re siblings. However, she can’t justify giving him more cash if he’s just going to waste it again.
Even so, her parents’ and brother’s reactions have left her wondering whether drawing that boundary really made her a jerk.
Would you also feel used if your sibling kept “borrowing” funds but never paid you back? Did she have a right to cut her brother off?
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