His Family Hired A Private Investigator To Investigate His Girlfriend And He’s Telling The Internet He Freaked Out On Them When They Told Him About It
A guy has a girlfriend that he moved in with around 4 weeks ago, and he’s decided to ask her to marry him soon.
Before he and his girlfriend moved in, his girlfriend met his family. Several weeks after they all met, his family called him over to have a discussion about something that was very “serious.”
It turns out what they wanted to discuss is that they hired a private investigator to investigate his girlfriend.
14 years prior, his girlfriend did have a problem with gambling, and he’s fully aware of this fact about her.
Since she got help, she has gone on to sponsor other gambling addicts on their journey to recovery, and she also participates in gamblers anonymous.
His girlfriend is very vocal and public about the struggle she has had and about getting help for other people struggling with the same addiction.
Online, she has shared many things about this topic, and she has also done interviews and spoken at different events throughout the years.
“Anyone who searches her name, looks at social media, or even talks to her would know,” he explained.
“She told me about it the second time we met after our first date because she wanted to be honest. I also want to say though she makes no excuses when she used to gamble she was self-employed, financially supporting herself, and didn’t have any kids or people depending on her so she only ever used her own money and affected herself.”
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“She didn’t affect others financially or borrow or steal from family or friends. She doesn’t make excuses but what ended up getting her to quit was moving in to help her grandfather and once she was made a cosigner on his bank account and bills she realized she needed to stop.”
“Since she stopped she served 8 years in the army, is in the national guard now and became a condo owner, and has no debt and a great credit score.”
His girlfriend has really been able to turn her life around, and he has no issue with what she did in her past because it’s in the past.
Also, she was always upfront with him about her previous addiction, so he sees no reason to be alarmed.
He also feels sympathetic towards her because she was young when she was addicted to gambling.
When he was the same age, he admits he didn’t make great choices about certain things in his life either, so he feels he can’t judge anyone for their past, let alone her for hers.
“My girlfriend isn’t mad about the background check but I am,” he said. “It was a complete invasion of her privacy.”
“My family knows things about her finances and other things I consider private. She has no criminal record, tickets or driving record, bankruptcies, or debt and she served honorably with the army and has medals.”
“There was no need to investigate her. The only problem they had is the gambling. I think they’re hypocrites to say it’s a deal-breaker when my own driving record from that time is filled with speeding tickets and I have a sibling in federal prison.”
As soon as his family sat him down for that meeting about hiring someone to investigate his girlfriend, he freaked out on them and stormed out.
He told them all off for being “creepy” and “wrong.” His brother thinks he really blew things out of proportion and his girlfriend is not even upset about what his family did, so he’s left wondering if he was simply being too protective.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“That’s a hideous breach of privacy. I don’t think I’d ever be able to forgive them.”
“Your girlfriend is amazingly forgiving because in her shoes I’d be going medieval. Go medieval yourself. They deserve it. And make sure they know that it’s you angry, not her.”
“The weirdest thing to me is that they did this as a group, and had an intervention style meeting with you.”
“I won’t lie, my friends and I have done internet snooping on partners, exes, tinder dates, etc. Some friends have had access to court records and can get more info than a cursory internet search. Information is out there, and sometimes if something is off can make a huge difference on personal safety.”
“But why, WHY would your family all get together to discuss this as a group? I could see one person being suspicious or worried and digging on their own – but this sounds like a coordinated effort.”
“Like many talks about her background, hiring a professional together, and then presenting it to you with everyone there. This is incredibly bizarre to me.”
“I could see one family member meeting with you privately to raise a concern, ask if you know about xyz, and then leave you to make your own decisions.”
“But all of them at once? What the hell did they think they would accomplish by violating your and her privacy so insanely?!”
“…They showed a huge disregard for your privacy, your intelligence, your ability to make your own decisions, and trust in you as your own person.”
“If they truly did this out of concern for your well-being, they did it in the absolutely worst way possible. If not, they are overstepping and controlling and gross to you and your relationship. If I were your GF I’d never interact with them without a sincere apology for their behavior.”
“Your family is incredibly invasive and that’s really uncomfortable. Intentions don’t matter, actions do. They obviously don’t trust your judgment and therefore, took it upon themselves to investigate your s/o.”
“Good for you for standing up for your relationship. Despite it being against your family, sometimes, family can be extremely toxic, and hiring a P.I. is about as toxic as it gets.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.
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