She Discovered That Her Boyfriend Bought Her An Extravagant Rose Gold Diamond Ring For Christmas And She’s Struggling With How She’s Going To Refuse The Gift
A 29-year-old woman is in a relationship with her boyfriend, who is 28. Recently, while she was cleaning their home, she accidentally discovered a receipt for what she is positive is the Christmas present her boyfriend is about to give her in a few days.
So what is the present? It’s a very extravagant rose gold and diamond ring, and it’s making her wildly uncomfortable knowing this is what her boyfriend chose to buy her for Christmas, for several reasons.
One reason she really is upset by this gift is that it cost a ton of money, and she knows they could use that money towards other things, such as items they truly do need.
This really comes across to her like a bright red flag, because her boyfriend is awful with how he spends his money and he can’t budget well at all.
She isn’t sure if her boyfriend’s mom helped him out with purchasing this ring for her, but if that’s the case, it makes her all the more uneasy.
“I have told him time and again that I want to be consulted for big purchases, he barely started a real job a month or so ago, he doesn’t make much,” she explained.
“I still pay for the majority of the bills and a gift like this almost seems like a slap in the face since I have really struggled to make things work living with him and HIS extravagant habits and hobbies.”
The second reason she’s upset about the ring is that it is covered in diamonds, which she hates. She doesn’t consider herself high-maintenance or lavish in the least, and that’s what she thinks diamonds stand for.
She also is not a fan of how diamonds are mined and the issues surrounding that. She has pointed out to her boyfriend in the past all of the qualms she has with diamonds, so she feels like he hasn’t listened to a single word that she said.
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The third issue she has with the ring is that, well, it completely seems like a wedding band style ring.
“We have not discussed marriage at much length, ever,” she said. “We may live together but we are not (at least I am not) to the point or stage where I can concretely say I am ready for that commitment and I just don’t want to add pressure to a relationship that has seen more than its fair share of struggles.”
The fourth problem the ring presents is that she’s a teacher, and wearing this ring would make her students think she’s most likely engaged.
“The other side to that coin is I would feel horrible if I never wore the thing and it’s not meant to be some kind of engagement/wedding ring…but honestly I just don’t wear jewelry like this,” she continued.
“This leads to my next point. Unless I am engaged or married I would rather just wear costume or vintage jewelry.”
“Fine jewelry is not my style. I have wild, wavy/curly hair cut into a 70s shag and I dress vintage/retro/grunge…not dainty or polished. Ever. So it just won’t “go” with my look.”
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She knows that she is not difficult to buy presents for because she is quite easygoing and has a variety of interests, which her boyfriend is aware of.
She would rather spend money on an experience or travel somewhere with her boyfriend instead of just buying things.
She considers herself to be easygoing and very low maintenance, and the list she gave her boyfriend for Christmas included everything from spice jars and organizers to a drafting table for her art and new luggage.
“I am at a loss and just don’t know what to do on the day I open it,” she concluded. “I will first of all have to act surprised, but then how do I graciously ask him to return it without hurting his feelings?”
“It is honestly disturbing me to my core I don’t know how I will act normal the next few days leading up to Christmas.”
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