His 18-Year-Old Girlfriend Has Baby Fever Even Though He Does Not Want Children For Another Decade

A 20-year-old guy is dating an 18-year-old girl, and she has serious baby fever even though he does not want children for another decade.

He really wants to spend his 20s just living his life until after he finishes college and can settle down as he gets into his career.

Meanwhile, his girlfriend is currently not going to college, and it’s not something she plans on doing.

“She has always wanted to be a young mom so she would have a friend-like relationship with her daughter,” he explained.

“We’ve talked so many times how it’s very stupid to do it so early because it will stump and limit our growth.”

“As it is right now, we are both dirt poor, same as our parents. I want to climb out of the…hole that is poverty but a baby will only weigh that dream down.”

He has pointed out to his girlfriend that babies really are expensive, but she’s too enamored with the fact that she thinks a baby will make them so happy that the cost won’t matter.

“I don’t want to sound mean, and I’ve never said this to her, but it really seems like a Disney fairy tale movie. We both come from broken (but not abusive) homes,” he said.

“When I tell her that we both literally have no money (I’m homeless and she’s living with 4 housemates) she says “but it will take 9 months, we have so much time until then”. I have a lot to save up for and I’m genuinely trying to be extremely wise with my money.”

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Sometimes, he won’t eat for several days so he can have the money to pay for transportation. Although he does work, a lot of unforeseen things have set him back financially.

He also has other things he really needs to buy like a new laptop before he can think of paying for a baby.

“I gave up on my social life already so I can have time for college, work, and a girlfriend,” he continued.

“I literally don’t have friends whereas a year ago I spent all my time in the city with all sorts of friend groups.”

He does not regret this, but if he doesn’t have time for friends, he has no idea how he will have time for a baby.

His girlfriend is so obsessed with having a baby though that she brings this up to him nearly every other day; sometimes more than that.

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Nothing he says will change his girlfriend’s mind about holding off to have a baby, and he’s tried everything to get her to wait.

Ideally, he doesn’t want to have children for another decade, but he tried to compromise with his girlfriend and say that in 5 years they can start trying, but she’s not ok with that.

He’s also upset with the fact that his girlfriend’s friends and family members are saying she should have a baby because it’s so wonderful, but all these people are 30-years-old or more, not the same age as his girlfriend.

“I look at our parents who had me when my mom was 19, and her mom who had her at 18,” he concluded.

“They aren’t in great positions. My mom is homeless with me, my GF’s mom was almost homeless but found a tiny apartment far from work. I look at them and I can imagine my life being so much better and their lives being so much better if I was born a few years later.”

How would you handle this situation?

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