She Met A Guy On A Dating App Who Talked About Himself For Hours On End, So She Ended Things With Him But He Accused Her Of Leading Him On
A 26-year-old woman met a 29-year-old guy through a dating app that they were both on. They started talking on the app, before exchanging numbers and moving things over to phone calls.
She wound up talking to this guy on the phone for 3 evenings straight; their first phone call lasted 5 hours, their second call 6 hours, and their third call a shocking 8 hours.
Yes, she spent 8 hours on the phone with this guy in one night alone. The first two evenings she chatted with him on the phone, she thought their conversations were wonderful.
It was easy to talk to him on those nights, but for their 8-hour-long phone call, everything shifted quite a bit.
“…He would tell stories about his life but they would last for like an hour straight,” she explained. “I figured he was just excited and word vomiting, and I was excited too.”
“We went on a first date and it was really good. Got dinner, saw a movie, he was super sweet and respectful. All was going well.”
This guy didn’t live close to her at all, so they continued talking over the phone in between making plans for date two.
Following their first date, it dawned on her that this guy would just go on and on and on about himself and his life for hours on end while they were on the phone.
He never let her get a word in, and he never asked her questions or let it be more like a conversation than a monologue.
fisher05 – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
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It was getting so bad that she was sure she could hit the mute button without him even realizing she wasn’t there and actively listening.
She tried to subtly give him cues that he was making everything about himself, but he just wasn’t picking up what she was putting down.
On the night of their second date, she thought everything was better face to face than it had been on their phone calls.
She kept on giving him cues about letting this be a two-way street instead of a one-way street, but again, he wasn’t noticing what she was saying.
She planned on letting him know at some point during date 2 that he was just too into himself and not doing a good job of making her feel heard.
“I had full intentions of telling him because he came over to my place and I was making us dinner,” she said.
“We ate, I was getting myself amped up, and then he dropped on me that he wants to “make it official” and “put a label on it.” I’d told him from the get-go that I wanted to move slow and rushing things was something that had burned me before.”
“So, instead of having the “holy moly stop talking about only yourself” conversation, we had to have the “slow down please” conversation.”
Clearly, this guy was more invested in her than she was in him, and he was coming on really strong.
It wasn’t that she didn’t like him; she just didn’t like that he only focused on himself. Since she didn’t have the opportunity to address this with him on their second date, she thought it would be alright to talk to him over text about her concerns.
Well, he didn’t like what she said and replied with an enormous message (more like a novel) accusing her of being incorrect and leading him on.
“I ended up breaking it off then and there because it was honestly a pretty aggressive response,” she continued.
“He feels like I led him on and I shouldn’t have strung him along because he was falling for me.”
She feels like she made the right choice in ending things, yet she’s wondering if she should have brought up to him sooner that he was too into himself.
Do you think she waited too long to tell him?
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