She’s Been Seeing A Guy For More Than A Year, But He Still Doesn’t Think He’s Ready To Commit To Her So She’s Thinking Of Moving On Since She Met Someone New
A 22-year-old woman has been seeing a 26-year-old guy for more than a year now, and she originally met him on a dating app.
She thinks this guy is nice and all, but they have not taken their relationship further because of him.
According to this guy, he thinks that they are “not ready yet” to be committed to one another, which you know means he’s not ready to commit.
She has no idea how to make this guy feel like he is ready to get serious, and she has no clue how to get closer to him or what more she can do.
She considers this guy to be essentially her best friend, and their physical connection is excellent. She has feelings for him, and she knows he has feelings for her too.
“We’ve met each other’s friends and talk about future, marriage, children, etc. on a regular basis (half-jokingly, half-serious),” she explained.
“I am a bit hesitant as he needs to find a way to handle all his responsibilities (work, job, his flat, health, friends, mental health) but we have committed to supporting each other in regard to personal growth and development.”
“Of course, I am not perfect by any means myself but I think that I am more mature and able to handle being a responsible grown-up.”
They don’t have similar interests, but they do get along well and have a similar sense of humor.
Jeremy Francis – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
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She does have an open situation with this guy, as they’re free to do anything that they want with someone else if they are attracted to another person.
At first, this really bothered her about her relationship, but she currently considers it to be a kind of freedom for her.
Last week, she was just living her life in the city where she lives when she bumped into a really good-looking man riding a bike.
“We smiled at each other but he was gone before either of us could start up a conversation,” she said.
“Scrolling through Tinder later that day I found out that we actually already have a match and have been texting back and forth but stopped (about two months ago).”
“He texted me the same day and we have started dating/sleeping with each other pretty much the next day.”
This new guy definitely has his life in order and appears to be super interested in pursuing her. She never told him that she is seeing another guy or that she has been for more than a year.
She’s thinking that it might be time to ditch her current guy for this new one since she wants to be in a more traditional kind of relationship than the one she found herself in.
This new guy is very interested in some of the same things that she is, and it’s easy to talk to him.
She’s aware that she needs to figure things out as soon as possible and “fix the situation.”
“Leaving my FWB for good would cut out an amazing and benevolent person from my life while leaving the bike crush would feel like wasting a fateful opportunity and a more grown-up way of leading a healthy relationship,” she concluded.
Who should she pick here; the guy she’s been with for more than a year, or this new, handsome, bike riding man?
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