Her Husband Constantly Puts Her Down And Says His Best Friend’s Wife, Who Is 17 Years Younger Than Her, Is Perfect In Comparison
A 40-year-old woman is currently married to her 41-year-old husband, and they recently celebrated 8 years of marriage.
They first got together when they were in their junior year of college, and after graduation, they decided to make the move to San Francisco.
Her husband majored in computer science, and he dreamed of working for a big tech company. She majored in English as well as anthropology, and although she knows her career of choice was never going to bring in the big bucks, she was proud that she could pay for all of her own bills while contributing to their rent.
When they were younger, her husband never once put her down or made her feel bad about what she wanted to achieve.
He also never tried to make her feel bad about how much money he contributed to their household vs. how much she contributed.
Over the years, her husband has climbed the corporate ladder, and then he got offered a position as a co-founder of a startup. She encouraged him to take that opportunity, even though it meant blowing through all of the money they had saved and moving into a tiny little apartment.
People around them thought that her husband made a bad career move, and she watched as her husband was turned down by tons of potential investors.
Things got pretty rough, and she and her husband decided to wait to get married and have children since he wasn’t in a good financial position.
But then, the business really began doing well, and her husband proposed to her. He then asked her to sign a prenup, and she had no problem doing so.
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She figured that she would always be able to have her own job and her own money. She then got pregnant with their daughter, who is now 4, and before she gave birth, she and her husband moved to Tennessee for his company.
When they welcomed their daughter, her husband began to act differently. He was meeting people high up in the business world. He was starting to pick up new hobbies like golf and riding horses.
He started striking up friendships with men who lived in the fast lane and who were basically rude about a lot of things.
“Around that time, his cofounder, and probably the friend he spends the most time with, before and now, decided he was sick of having short-term relationships and decided to get married this year,” she explained.
“His wife is 23 years old to his 40 (almost 41), and one month after having their son, she was back in a bikini looking better than she did pre-baby. Let’s just call her Anna. Anna stopped working when she began dating his friend and basically posts about how much she admires her husband every day.”
“She also fights a lot of his battles for him, basically arguing with others on his behalf when her husband feels slighted and will blast these arguments out on social media. Whenever we socialize with them, I always catch him looking at them with a wistful look in his eyes before looking at me with a lot of scorn and resentment.”
In the last year, her husband has been staying out late, coming home drunk, and kind of vanishing on her.
He has been constantly putting her down and making her feel bad about her job and the minimal amount of money that she earns.
He asks her why she can’t be just like Anna, who has made her husband her entire life. He also has said to her that if he leaves her, she will get nothing because of their prenup, and he also insists his single friends are living a far better life than he is.
“He has gone from an average build to working out all the time and decided to get botox and veneers he didn’t need,” she said.
“He encouraged me to get fillers and botox to stop my eyebrows from raising, saying even if I get too much, it is better than wrinkles and will wear off. He got mad when I didn’t, saying Anna knows a good doctor, works out every day, and got a tummy tuck.”
He also has stated that Anna really is the perfect wife, and he wants them to be able to hire a maid as well as a nanny so she can try to have as much energy as Anna does.
She has begun to doubt that her husband is being faithful to her, which he swears he is, and she’s convinced this has to be some kind of a mid-life crisis that he’s experiencing.
“I read every mid-life crisis book available basically and tried everything,” she continued.
“I planned date nights, went on 5 am workouts with him, used up all my vacation time to be there for him, but my efforts were reciprocated with criticism.”
“He would say I could not keep up with him, that I looked tired all the time, etc.”
Eventually, she decided to follow her husband and see where he went, and she was dismayed to find him out at a club.
His excuse to her for being there was that Anna had no problem letting his friend go to clubs, and he spun things in such a way that he told he that she should let him cheat on her.
She felt so upset and sick to her stomach that she went to see a divorce lawyer.
This lawyer pointed out that her husband was probably weighing whether or not he should divorce her, as they are 2 years away from a 10-year clause in the prenup that states she won’t get very much at all if they get divorced before a decade.
She can’t really tell if her husband is about to divorce her or not, but she is certain that he has turned into anything but the man she wanted to marry.
“I honestly do not know and really am afraid of what this would do to our daughter,” she added.
“I keep hoping this is a midlife crisis he will apologize for and forget, but I am so miserable right now. He has an ideal of an ideal wife, and I fail to measure up. What do I do?”
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