Her Female Roommate Called Her Out For Not Cleaning Up After Their Male Roommate And Claimed It Was A Woman’s Job, So She Told Her Roommate To Go Back To Her Home Country
This twenty-year-old woman currently lives with two roommates, John and Anna, who are twenty-one and twenty, respectively. All three of them share a two-bedroom space, so she and Anna each have separate bedrooms.
Despite there being an extra bed in Anna’s room, though, John did not feel comfortable sharing that space with Anna.
So, he opted to stay in the living room, and she and Anna had no problem with that. After all, they did not want to force John to do anything.
Anyway, even though they are all roommates, the trio rarely hangs out together. They more so just coexist.
She is particularly busy because she is both in college and working a part-time job. So, most of her time is spent outside of the apartment.
Before she ever goes out, though, she always makes sure to tidy up her bedroom, clean up any dishes she used, and pick up any clothes or personal belongings that she left behind throughout the apartment. Plus, whenever she has friends over, she always cleans up after them.
So, she claims that she never makes a mess and expects her roommates to clean it up for her. The same cannot be said about John, though.
Apparently, whenever John wakes up, the living room looks like an absolute pigsty.
“There are dishes everywhere, clothes on the floor, wrappers, deodorant, and razors– yes, used razors– on the table and kitchen counters,” she vented.
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However, John never actually cleans up any of his own mess. Instead, whenever her other roommate Anna cleans up her own things, she also puts away all of John’s stuff, too.
And quite honestly, she did not really care about that– because if Anna wanted to do that, that was her roommate’s decision.
Well, that was until Anna tried to involve her and claimed that she was part of the reason why John’s space was always so dirty.
This all began just a few days ago when Anna was washing the dishes and putting away John’s things. At the same time, she was on the phone with a friend discussing an important essay she had to write.
And out of nowhere, during the middle of her call, Anna apparently began screaming at her to go help out with all of the garbage.
She was confused at that moment and politely told Ana she was busy– because just twenty minutes later, she was supposed to meet her friend regarding the essay.
Plus, it was obvious that all the trash John had left behind was easily going to take an hour to clean up.
Anna seemingly did not care about any of that, though, and instead just started calling her lazy. Anna also began screaming about how she never helps clean up and accused her of just “going out” all day.
So, she was totally caught off guard by her roommate’s behavior and pointed out how she always cleaned up after herself. Then, she asked why Anna wasn’t just yelling at John– who was actually the source of the mess!
To her complete surprise, though, Anna ended up detailing how women are responsible for the cleanliness of a home.
“Because he’s a guy, and that’s just not expected of them to know. You should know better. Women from my country know this. Guys aren’t really bothered by messes, so it makes sense why he wouldn’t clean,” Anna apparently said to her.
And afterward, her roommate reportedly just kept slinging more and more insults at her. So, she ended up telling Anna that she had absolutely no obligation to clean up after a man she didn’t know. She also pointed out how Anna is not obligated, either, and claimed that since Anna is studying in the United States, she should understand the customs are different here.
“When I leave to study in your country and start living off of it, that will be the moment I will share your values. But, for now, I don’t really care about them,” she told Anna.
If you could not have guessed, though, her response only made Anna even angrier. In fact, Anna then started to actually insult her personally, along with a bunch of other things. So finally, she decided to tell Anna off.
“I told her that if she likes how the women in her country behave that much, then maybe the solution to her problems is that she should just go back to her country and leave me alone,” she huffed.
Now, though, she has been left feeling very torn about how she handled the situation. While she stands behind the fact that she should not be expected to clean up after John, she also realizes that Anna may just be a product of her home environment.
So, she is still wondering whether telling Anna to go back to her country is justified or makes her a total jerk.
Do you think she should be expected to clean up after John? If Anna’s views do stem from her home environment, does that justify her being expected to adhere to them? How would you have handled this situation?
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