She Doesn’t Want Her Best Friend’s Obese Husband To Visit Because He Broke A Bunch Of Her Furniture Last Time, But She Does Not Know How To Handle This Situation Without Upsetting Her Best Friend Or Sounding Like A Jerk
This thirty-year-old woman and her fiancé, who is twenty-six, recently bought a home together. They also already have two children, so finally getting to own their own home has been a dream come true.
In fact, they both grew up quite poor, so this has been a goal she and her fiancé have been working toward for a while.
And after they first moved in, the couple decided to celebrate and throw a big housewarming party. On the invite list was also her best friend of ten-plus years, who she also invited to stay over.
Now, she revealed that she is a disabled stay-at-home mom who does not get out of the house much. Plus, her best friend lives about two hours away, so they rarely get to see each other.
However, she honestly could not love their friendship anymore, and she feels that no matter how much distance or time passes between them, they will always remain like sisters.
“I love her and her husband so much. I can tell her anything, and she can trust me with anything. She is truly my best friend,” she explained.
“We can not talk for months and start talking again like we last spoke yesterday. She is one of the best people I have ever met.”
So, after she realized that there was a big issue with her best friend’s husband coming to visit, it seriously started to tear her up inside– because she did not want to upset or drive her friend away.
This issue all ties back to the housewarming party, when not just her best friend but also her best friend’s husband stayed at her house for a few days. And apparently, her best friend’s husband simply refuses to take care of himself– meaning that he is now between five and six hundred pounds.
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And for the most part, having her best friend and her husband around for a few days was great. She claims that the husband is a good guy who is awesome with her kids.
However, his weight seriously affects his mobility and his ability to clean himself– meaning that he would go long periods of time smelling pretty rancid.
“After a few days of staying with us, he smelled so bad. I had to ask my friend if she would ask him to wash down or shower,” she recalled.
Plus, the husband’s lack of hygiene caused her brand-new furniture to smell bad. And she claims that he also had a thick crust on his feet that would flake off everywhere around the house.
Her best friend’s husband’s hygiene was far from the only issue, though. In fact, there was an even bigger and much more expensive problem, too.
Apparently, her best friend’s husband first broke a decorative metal chair. She does admit that the chair was rusting; however, she had planned to vine some decorative flowers through it. After the husband sat in it, though, it collapsed.
Second, her best friend’s husband also broke their couch as well as their toilet seat. So, she and her own husband were forced to buy a new couch, and now her toilet does not sit right anymore.
And normally, she would not care about these items because they are just material “stuff.” But, since she is disabled, she and her husband are trying to make ends meet on just one income.
In turn, they cannot exactly afford to buy all new furniture whenever her best friend’s husband comes to visit.
At the time of the housewarming party and subsequent overnight stay, though, she was just too embarrassed to say anything to her best friend about the issues.
Plus, she figured that they would not be visiting together again that soon since they both live a decent distance away and survive on a single income, too.
Well, it appears that her assumption was wrong– because her husband just recently informed her that her best friend and her best friend’s husband are planning a surprise trip since they are already going to be in her area.
And since both of them are going to be in the area, she has no way of asking for the visit to just be a “girl’s thing.” So now, she has no idea what to do without feeling and seeming like a total jerk– especially because the trip is literally meant to make her happy.
“It’s supposed to be something nice to surprise me because I am a disabled stay-at-home mom who doesn’t get out much and doesn’t have many friends, which makes me feel worse about saying anything!” she vented.
“She is trying to do something nice for me, and I have to say something about her husband breaking my stuff.”
In turn, she has been left wondering whether or not to say anything and if telling her best friend about the problems would make her a total jerk.
Does it make sense why she is worried about more of her belongings being broken during this second visit? Is there a way she can sensitively go about this situation to voice her concerns without offending her best friend or their husband? Are there any alternatives to having that tough conversation, or should she just rip the bandaid off? What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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