If You Just Went Through A Breakup, She Has A Brilliant Piece Of Advice If You’re Considering Trying To Get Back Together With Your Ex
If you’ve ever experienced a breakup, you’ve probably had the thought of going back to the person you broke up with. Sometimes it works out, and the relationship is better, but more times than not, the relationship gets worse.
Though I personally have only really had one serious relationship in my adult life, I do know that when I was dating throughout college, I could have used some good advice about whether I was with who I was supposed to be with.
One TikToker named Hope Moquin, who goes by @hopemoquin, is sharing some advice that would have been great to know. And I definitely wish I had known it in college, it would have saved me a lot of grief and stress.
“If you broke up with someone and you’re already considering getting back together with them or questioning if you made the right decision or the wrong decision,” hope started.
“Literally wait 3 weeks. Do not talk to this person for 3 weeks. Don’t entertain the things that make you think about this person, 3 weeks.”
This is definitely an interesting concept. A lot can happen in 3 weeks. You can meet another person you become interested in, they can find someone else they’re interested in.
You can feel all sorts of emotions that you weren’t feeling during the relationship. You never know what is going to happen, and that can be exactly what you need after a relationship ends.
“In those 3 weeks, you live your best life,” she continued. “You hang out with all your friends and do all the things that bring you the most joy.”
“Read some books, listen to some podcasts but for 3 weeks, do not talk to the person you broke up with.”
Pixel-Shot – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“If you’re one of those girls who go back and forth a lot of times, you know that’s not what you really want, but you’re just caught in this cycle of being comfortable or being familiar with someone.”
I definitely was one of those girls that thought throughout college that I needed to be dating someone to be happy. Only when I stopped looking for someone and focused on myself did I find the right person for me.
Taking the time to focus on yourself and find out who you are as an individual can be the best thing for you, your mental health, and your future relationships.
“Sometimes making a logical decision means you taking a step back and separating yourself from the emotions and situations that are tied to that person,” Hope then pointed out in her video.
“And just taking a step back to breathe and to reevaluate and to really consider what you want in your life.”
Hope concluded by saying that if after those 3 weeks are up and you still feel the need to get back together with that person, that’s totally fine. But, at least you gave yourself the time and space to consider if this was the very best choice.
So much of what she is saying makes sense, and not just when it comes to relationships. The 3 week rule for relationships, yes, but the general idea that you need to sometimes step away and give yourself time and space to find the clarity you need is so important.
We live in a society that has this insane reliance on deadlines and rushing to get stuff done to the point where people are getting exhausted mentally, and it’s affecting their overall happiness. Taking the time to step back and gain clarity is one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever been given, and I will be giving that advice to others only when asked, of course.
@hopemoquin Three weeks. #healthybreakup #datingadvice #breakupadvice
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