She Ditched Her Friend After She Kept Showing Up To Hangouts Late And Blaming It On Her Kid, So Then Her Friend Blasted Her On A Mom’s Group And Called Her Selfish
This young woman has a friend named Samantha, who is currently a stay-at-home mom to her daughter Katie, who is 4-years-old.
And ever since giving birth to Katie, her friend has always insisted that she travel to their house for all hangouts.
Now, Samantha lives about 45 minutes away from her– which is not exactly a short drive. But she still agreed to drive to Samantha’s house in the beginning because, first of all, she valued their friendship.
“And Katie was Samantha’s first, so I could understand how she would be stressed with a newborn,” she added.
More recently, though, she decided to start putting her foot down and asking Samantha to meet her halfway. After all, she feels like Katie is now old enough to handle being outside and doing other activities as opposed to just hanging out inside Samantha’s house all day.
Honestly, she was also just pretty tired of driving to her friend’s place all the time, too.
And in the past, they had always picked a halfway point to meet up at before Katie was born. So, she figured it wouldn’t be a problem for Samantha, right?
Well, she claimed that for each of their last three hangouts, her friend was over 30 minutes late. Every single time, Samantha also claimed to be entitled to “mom privileges,” meaning that since her friend had to wrangle Katie into the car and get other “mom things” done, it was fine to be late.
“According to her, I wouldn’t understand. I am childless,” she said.
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Quite frankly, though, it really started to get on her nerves. So, after Samantha asked her to hang out again this past weekend, she gave her friend an ultimatum.
More specifically, she claimed that if Samantha was late again, she would just leave to go home.
But unfortunately, even this threat did not seem to work. Apparently, on the day of their hangout, her friend was late yet again. So, she wound up waiting about 30 minutes before getting up and leaving their meet-up spot.
Before she could start driving home, though, she started to get a bit curious about just how late Samantha was going to be. So, she went to sit in a coffee shop across the street and waited to see when her friend would show up.
Lo and behold, Samantha wound up showing up over one hour late. Then, after her friend realized she had left, she started receiving a bunch of calls and texts.
At that point, she actually got accused of being callous and selfish for making Samantha drive 25 minutes with a toddler, only for her to leave. Samantha also claimed to only ever go out for her benefit.
That only made her more frustrated, though, and she ended up pointing out how she hangs out with multiple other friends who also bring their kids along and claimed that they were never late. She also said it wasn’t fair for Samantha to blame being late on Katie.
“Who is a perfectly sweet girl,” she explained.
“Katie has never been a problem during our outings.”
Still, Samantha did not understand her perspective and just kept saying that since she was not a mom, she couldn’t possibly “get it.”
Anyway, after their argument, she later found out from another mutual friend that Samantha had been blasting her in a mom’s group– claiming that she had bullied Samantha for putting Katie first.
Rather than being angry about that, though, she is actually starting to feel kind of bad. In fact, she believes that Samantha’s reaction to her comments would not have been so strong unless her friend was genuinely upset.
She also admitted that Samantha is right– she doesn’t “get it” since she doesn’t have any kids.
“But I still feel annoyed that she’s late and feel justified for leaving. My time is precious, too!” she vented.
In spite of her own feelings, though, she has been left wondering whether ditching Samantha and Katie at the restaurant after they were late was the wrong thing to do or not.
Is having kids an excuse to constantly be late? Would it be different if Samantha communicated they were running behind instead of just not showing up on time? Do you think she did the right thing by putting her foot down and leaving? If not, how would you have handled this situation?
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