He Missed His Daughter’s Graduation To Be With His Sick Stepdaughter Years Ago, So He Promised To Miss His Stepdaughter’s Graduation To Make It Fair
When this 54-year-old man’s children were just 12 and 9-years-old, he tragically lost his wife. And understandably, the loss of their mother was devastating for his kids.
He did start dating a new woman named Doreen just four months after the death of his late wife, though. He also wound up marrying her and becoming a stepfather to her daughter Amy, who was just 5 years old at the time.
But unfortunately, his own son and daughter– who are now 25 and 22-years-old– never had a good relationship with Doreen or Amy. Still, since he became a part of Amy’s life when she was still so young, he sees Amy– who is now 18– as his own daughter.
And recently, his choice to prioritize his relationship with Amy over the relationship with his own biological kids has stirred up some serious drama.
It all stems back to about four years ago when Amy became very sick while visiting her grandparents. His stepdaughter even wound up needing emergency surgery, but it just so happened that all of these medical issues occurred only two days before his daughter Kay’s high school graduation.
Now, after he and Doreen rushed to be with Amy, he admitted to not communicating well with his daughter.
“At the time, Kay didn’t pick up my calls, so I left her a voicemail and several text messages– explaining what happened and telling Kay I was sorry, but I would make it up to her,” he recalled.
But, a few hours later, his daughter did call him back. And on the phone, she was apparently hysterical– accusing him of being a terrible father. On top of that, Kay claimed that if he did not go to her graduation, then he would be dead to her.
Despite this ultimatum from his own daughter, though, he chose to stay with and support his stepdaughter Amy.
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So, Kay stayed true to her word and never reached out to him on her graduation day. Plus, after he arrived home with Doreen and Amy, he found all of his daughter’s belongings had been moved out of their home.
Kay had also left behind a note detailing how they were not family anymore and telling him never to reach out to her again.
Still, he claimed that he and his daughter were able to reconcile the situation. Well, under one condition.
Apparently, he promised that he would give Kay anything in the world to make her forgive him. So, Kay wound up agreeing to forgive him as long as he refused to go to Amy’s gradation– since Kay thought that was the only way to balance the scales.
“And I agreed at the time, thinking she was just joking or angry and would soon forget,” he said.
That was four years ago, though. So, now that Amy is currently a senior, the invitations for her high school graduation have finally gone out. And even though there has been a lot of hostility in his family, he claimed his stepdaughter still wanted to ensure that Kay received an invite.
After Kay received the invitation, though, she ultimately called Amy and revealed she would not be able to attend. His daughter’s reasoning was that he and Kay would be spending the entire day together due to their agreement.
Once his daughter told Amy that, the teen immediately burst into tears and began questioning why he would miss her graduation day.
So, he started reassuring her that he would be there. He also told Amy that he would speak to Kay about the whole situation.
He wound up talking to Kay later that same day and tried to explain how he just could not voluntarily miss his stepdaughter’s graduation. If you could not have guessed, though, Kay was furious.
“Kay launched into a tirade about how I was a liar and a jerk and how I could ever do this to her again. I told her that we would talk when she calmed down, and she said we would never talk again,” he revealed.
Since then, his son and a bunch of other extended family members have also taken his daughter’s side– claiming that they did not understand how he didn’t realize just how hurt Kay was at her graduation.
On the other hand, his wife, Doreen, is mad at him, too, but for a different reason. Apparently, Doreen thinks he was a jerk for even making his daughter the promise in the first place since it was obviously going to upset either Kay or Amy.
Finally, his stepdaughter is also feeling upset and confused about why Kay hates her so much.
Anyway, he realizes that the only way to salvage his relationship with Kay would be to keep his promise and not go to Amy’s graduation.
“But no matter how I look at it, I would feel like I’m punishing Amy for having a medical issue,” he vented.
So now, he’s been left wondering whether breaking his promise to his daughter and attending his stepdaughter’s graduation would make him a real jerk or not.
Can you understand why Kay was devastated when he missed her graduation? Was it smart for him to make that promise years ago? How can he reconcile the situation? Is it inevitable that either his daughter or stepdaughter will walk away hurt?
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