He Realized His Brother Is A Bum After Moving Into Their Inherited Childhood Home Together, And He Isn’t Sure What To Do About It
Last year, this 31-year-old man’s father sadly passed away. And following the loss, he and his older brother, who is 35, inherited their childhood home.
At the time, he had been living by himself in an apartment in the same city. But, he ultimately decided it made sense to move back into his childhood home since it was completely paid off and closer to his work location as opposed to paying $2,000 in rent per month for his old apartment.
His brother, however, had still been living at their childhood home with his dad. In fact, his brother never once moved out; meanwhile, he moved out when he was 22.
So, ever since he moved back in with his brother, he cannot help but notice that his brother does absolutely nothing all day.
Apparently, his brother lost his job during the COVID-19 pandemic and never tried to find a new position.
“I’ve encouraged him to apply for jobs, and I’ve offered to take him to job fairs and to resume shops. I even had our neighbor offer to put in a good word for him for a retail job so he could get hired,” he recalled.
But, his brother– who only has a high school diploma and experience in retail and fast food– just did not want to apply.
He, on the other hand, works a corporate job between 40 and 50 hours per week. Still, whenever he is home, he sees his brother just watching TV, playing video games, or working out the whole time.
His brother also tends to stay up super late– until 2:00 a.m. or 3:00 a.m.– and then doesn’t wake up until the afternoon.
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“My brother’s like a 12-year-old on an infinite summer vacation,” he said.
And while his brother does wash his own dishes and own clothing, that’s essentially all his brother does. At the same time, he takes care of most of the yard work and household responsibilities.
Whenever he rarely asks for help, he claims that his brother does pitch in. Still, his brother procrastinates getting anything done– which pushes him to just finish the tasks by himself. Or else it would take forever to get things done around the house.
In addition to primarily taking care of the house, he has been paying for all of the utilities and food, too.
He has instructed his brother to apply for SNAP food stamps. That way, his brother could at least purchase his own food.
However, his brother wound up refusing after finding out that their home state would require him to apply for jobs since his brother is also an able-bodied adult.
“My brother has no driver’s license and no car. He rarely leaves the house, and the few times he does, he either asks me to take him or he uses public transportation,” he explained.
On top of that, his brother has virtually no social life aside from talking to “online friends” and their neighbor– who offered to help get his brother a job. His brother also does not have a girlfriend and has not been on a date in years.
For all of these reasons, he is pretty sure that his brother is depressed. However, his brother has not put any effort into getting help, and he doesn’t know what to do, either.
He realizes that both of their names are on the house’s deed and title, meaning that the home is his brother’s, too. So, throwing his brother out just is not an option.
He also doesn’t want to do that, either, since he cares about his brother.
“But at the same time, after a year of this, I’m getting annoyed,” he vented.
So now, he’s been left wondering how to handle this situation.
Do you agree that it sounds like his brother is depressed? How can you help adults in this situation? Should he start by having a conversation and setting some boundaries in the home? What else could he do?
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