He Wants To Secretly Ask His Mom To Give Him Money For A New Place To Live Because His Wife Is Completely Against This
It’s really difficult when you get to a point in your adult life where you think you need to borrow money from your parents.
It’s an uncomfortable conversation to have, and while some parents are quick to help you out, others will make sure you feel super guilty.
One man has been going back and forth with his wife after she told him he shouldn’t ask his parents to loan them money for a new place to live.
He and his wife live in a very expensive city in Canada. They’ve spent the last three to four years trying to save up to buy an apartment.
However, the market has been giving them a lot of difficulty and has continued going up each year to the point where they try to catch up but still can’t afford anything.
They’ve also looked into purchasing a house located in a different city that might be a little cheaper. But since the pandemic, that market also hasn’t been in their favor, and every place they look at costs the maximum amount of money they’d be able to spend.
“These are the only two places my wife is willing to live,” he said.
“I’ve presented all manner of other small towns and medium-sized cities, and she is absolutely not interested.”
When they first started looking into a new place to live, he suggested that he and his wife ask their parents for money.
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They could either get the money as a loan, gift, or advance on their inheritance. He felt this wouldn’t be too out of the ordinary, as many people get to a point where they need to ask their parents for money.
However, his wife hates that idea and firmly said no. She said her family is aware of how much they’re struggling but still wouldn’t give them money and that his family would probably feel obliged to help even though they probably can’t afford to.
“I don’t think that is true, honestly,” he explained. “I think they could probably afford to advance us on [our] inheritance and just remove me or lessen what I get, which would be fine with me.”
He thinks his wife has too much pride, and he’s struggling to drop the idea of reaching out to his family for help.
Now, he wonders if he should do it without telling his wife. The worst thing that would happen is for his mom to say no. In that case, he believes his wife would never find out about their conversation anyway.
He claims his mom is “an absolute vault” and would never tell his wife about him asking her for money.
However, he would feel bad about going behind his wife’s back, and putting that kind of pressure on his mom isn’t great either.
Should he ask his mom for money without his wife knowing or respect her wishes and drop it?
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