After Moving In With His Girlfriend, His Quality of Life Really Went Downhill, And He Feels He’s Giving Everything But Getting Nothing
This 26-year-old guy moved in with his 23-year-old girlfriend four months ago, and ever since they decided to take that next step in their relationship, he says his quality of life really went downhill.
Prior to living with his girlfriend, he lived alone in a fully furnished apartment in the downtown area of his city, and it was really great.
His apartment was always kept clean and in a “livable” condition.
Now, he’s really well off. He has an annual salary of around $140,000, and on top of that, he has a side business that makes him $160,000 every year. His girlfriend’s salary is approximately $60,000 annually.
Right after he did move in with his girlfriend, his bills practically doubled each month. He’s the one paying for all of their utilities and their rent.
He and his girlfriend don’t really eat at home, so he has to pay every single time they go out to eat.
On the rare occasion they do cook in their home, he’s the one who has to play chef since she does not cook at all.
Another thing that’s really bothering him is the fact that their home is always filthy. His girlfriend has two large dogs that shed a ton, so everything in their home is coated in hair.
His bed is covered in dog hair, and even his clothes are covered, too. Despite paying a woman to come in and clean their home twice every month, his home is still gross. His girlfriend hates to clean, so he does attempt to pick up the slack, but he’s starting to stop doing this since he’s the only person pitching in.
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His girlfriend lets her dogs sleep in their bed, and it really disrupts his sleep. He also has lost a ton of weight from being weighed down by how poorly his quality of life now is, and his family is beginning to notice he’s not himself.
“She expects me to essentially do everything: cleaning, cooking, cleaning after her pets, taking the trash out, do everything,” he explained.
“Pay all the bills on top of that. [The] thing is, I feel like I get nothing in return. Even her pets, she pretty much wants me to take care of them, buy their medicine, buy their food, feed them, etc.”
“I don’t feel valued. I feel like in her hierarchy in the house. It’s her, the dogs, the cat and then me. I have to [have] space for her pets, be mindful of them, and make sure I do nothing… literally nothing to upset them. Otherwise, she gets mad. I can’t even put on my belt in front of her dogs. She hates belts, apparently, and that upsets her.”
His gut instinct is to break up with her and leave. He thinks he deserves far better than this, and when he was living on his own, his life was amazing.
The only thing that makes him hesitate is the worry that he’s being too rigid in his relationship. He knows couples need to compromise, and he’s wondering if everything he laid out is what he’s going to have to learn to compromise on.
What advice do you have for him?
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