She Decided To Have Her Kids Walk Her Down The Aisle Since Her Dad Never Stepped Up To The Plate As A Parent, But Then He Chose Not To Attend Her Wedding
This 28-year-old woman’s father, who is 54, only acts like a dad when he finds it convenient. Apparently, he’s just never been that present.
“He’s never been overly involved in my life. He has missed more birthdays than he’s attended, he’s missed every major milestone I’ve ever had, and communication has mostly been up to me for my entire life,” she recalled.
So, after she got engaged, she decided to structure her wedding a bit differently.
She knows that, typically, fathers walk their daughters down the aisle. However, she decided that she wanted her own kids to hand her off.
After all, it’s always just been her and her daughters before her husband entered her life. She also realized that the wedding was just as much for her daughters as it was for her.
As you can probably guess, though, the fact that her dad didn’t get a role in her wedding did make him very upset.
But the real kicker is that he never actually expressed his feelings to her. Instead, he just told everyone else in her family how upset he was.
Then, Father’s Day rolled around, and she honestly just completely forgot what day it was.
She realizes that she was a jerk for not calling or texting her father on the holiday. But then, he texted her at night and asked why she was angry at him, so she tried to share some very surface-level feelings while being polite.
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“I didn’t even swear and mentioned missed birthdays, me never even having a room at his house, him moving to another province, and me finding out from my aunt and not him. That sort of stuff,” she explained.
Well, her dad never responded to her text, and she believes that her message was his “final straw” because he just didn’t bother showing up at her wedding.
The Thursday before the event was set to take place, she received a text from him– claiming he wouldn’t be there.
This sent her into a full-blown panic attack that was so bad that her husband actually had to get her grandmother to come over and calm her down.
Then, on the day of her actual wedding, she received a message from her stepmother– which she thought sounded very “calculated.”
In the text, her stepmother claimed to hope that they could find a “resolution,” but at the same time, her stepmother was just justifying all of her dad’s actions.
Still, the drama was far from over because the night of her wedding, her dad also reached out via text to congratulate her and her husband.
“And I sent him a long message describing how hurt I was, especially because he texted me to tell me he wasn’t coming,” she said.
She also told her dad that she was not interested in speaking with him for a while following what happened.
However, he just didn’t understand her perspective. Instead, he tried to turn the situation around on her– blaming her for the state of their relationship.
Obviously, she argued with that and put her foot down once and for all about not wanting any further contact with her dad.
Since then, her husband and mother’s side of the family believe that she did the right thing.
“But after my dad changed the blame to me, I’m second-guessing myself,” she vented.
So now, she’s not sure whether going no contact with her dad after he didn’t attend her wedding was the wrong thing to do.
Do you think she should feel guilty? Or did her dad deserve to get cut off after barely putting any effort in as a parent? How would you feel if you were in her shoes?
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