Her Mother-In-Law Treated Her Horribly For Years And Only Became Interested In Her After She Had A Child, So She Cut Contact And Told Her Mother-In-Law To Just Speak To Her Wife From Now On
This 33-year-old woman is married to her wife, who is also 33, but her mother-in-law has never been fond of their relationship.
“My mother-in-law’s a very old-timey woman who speaks like a Victorian ghost and has trouble accepting that her daughter married a woman, but even worse than that, a chef,” she explained.
“My mother-in-law refers to food service workers as the help.” Yikes.
Regardless, after she met her wife back in 2010, they still moved in together in 2013. Then, they got engaged in 2018, tied the knot in 2019, and bought a home in 2021.
As of this past summer, she and her wife also welcomed their first child into the world. Yet, having a kid was the only thing that made her mother-in-law suddenly interested in her.
According to her, between the years of 2010 and 2018, she didn’t even exist to her mother-in-law. In fact, she was referred to as her wife’s “roommate” for years. Then, her in-laws referred to her as a “great friend” because, apparently, the term “girlfriend” was just too hard to use.
Her mother-in-law also ignored her parents and the rest of her family for years upon years– despite her relationship with her now-wife becoming much more serious.
Still, she and her wife were in a happy relationship, and they traveled a ton before moving in together.
Then, once she decided it was time to pop the big question, she “did the traditional thing” by asking for the support of her wife’s father.
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At that point, her now-father-in-law claimed that he totally supported her asking for her wife’s hand in marriage. However, her mother-in-law likely wouldn’t after believing that she had used her wife’s trust fund to travel and move to the other side of the country.
“Fine, not unexpected,” she recalled, “Whatever. We got married anyway, and it’s basically the summation of how I’ve been treated anyway.”
Yet, even following the wedding, her mother-in-law did not stop shaming everything from her career to her social class to her lifestyle. But, as soon as her mother-in-law found out that she was pregnant with the first grandchild of their family last year, she suddenly wanted to be a part of her life.
Out of nowhere, her mother-in-law wanted to grab casual coffees and drop in at her house– as if they had been best friends for years.
So, she tried to tell her mother-in-law that they could reconcile their differences once and for all. But to her surprise, her mother-in-law claimed to “not remember” ever treating her so horribly.
“And I was met with gaslighting, so I said fine, then we go back to how it was when you didn’t contact me,” she vented.
She also told her mother-in-law to just contact her wife instead from now on, and her wife stands by her decision.
Regardless, her mother-in-law has since begun to “play victim,” so now she isn’t sure if cutting contact with her mother-in-law was really the right way to handle the situation.
How would you feel if your mother-in-law never treated you with dignity or respect? Should she continue putting up with her mother-in-law’s behavior anymore? Do you think she did the right thing by opting to cut direct contact?
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