Her Stepdaughter Keeps Going Into Her Newborn’s Nursery And Compulsively Reorganizing Everything, So She Told Her Stepdaughter She Can’t Go To The Homecoming Dance
For the last 9 years, this woman has been married to her husband.
She has a 14-year-old stepdaughter named Steph, who she has had a great relationship with from the beginning.
Steph is a wonderful, kind girl, but recently, there has been an ongoing issue.
“She often goes into our room to ‘clean’ or organize, despite being told not to, and then loses a bunch of our stuff because she can’t remember where she’s put it. I’ve asked her to stop so many times, and she will apologize and say she ‘can’t help it,'” she said.
A week and a half ago, she had a baby girl. Prior to the birth, she and her husband set up the nursery exactly how they wanted it.
They had a changing table on which they put the diapers and wipes. Their daughter’s clothes were organized according to size in the closet.
The second day after she gave birth, she returned home from a doctor’s appointment for her baby to find the nursery totally rearranged.
She had no idea where the diapers were, and her pump was in a completely different spot.
“I immediately called the school and told them to put Steph on the phone, and she had to tell me where everything was. And I told her at this point that she wasn’t to rearrange the nursery at all and that if she did it again, more drastic measures would have to be taken,” she explained.
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Two days ago, she visited her mother for the day, and once she got home, she saw that Steph had, once again, reorganized the nursery.
“All of the baby’s clothes were now mixed in sizes and arranged by colors, and ALL tags had been removed (which I hadn’t removed on purpose). Her bassinet was moved to the other side of the room, her diapers were put in her bassinet and taken out of the changing table, and my pump and rocker were now moved to the opposite side, where there’s not even a plug-in, so I can’t use it there,” she shared.
Right when she saw this, she called her husband and informed him that she’d warned Steph that if she rearranged the nursery again, action would be taken.
As punishment, she told her husband that Steph was no longer allowed to attend the Homecoming dance. He agreed to this and told Steph that she couldn’t go to the dance.
After this, Steph guilt-tripped her, telling her that she knew she couldn’t help her behavior.
Steph’s mother told her that she was uninformed and added that Steph would still be able to attend Homecoming.
However, Steph’s mother doesn’t have custody during Homecoming weekend, so it’s not her call.
Then, Steph’s mother added that she needs to be more understanding and accused her of judging someone who has OCD.
Over the years, Steph has had evaluations by three different specialists, all of whom have concluded that she doesn’t have OCD.
Instead, they all believed that Steph’s behavior was rooted in control issues. They came to this conclusion because she doesn’t obsessively rearrange her own room. Her behaviors are limited to other people’s rooms.
Steph’s room is incredibly messy and disorganized, and she always struggles to find things in her room. However, she never wants to clean her room.
According to the specialists, Steph wants to be able to have control around her, specifically things that she normally wouldn’t have control over (other people’s spaces). They said that this stems from Steph’s mother essentially abandoning her.
Sadly, Steph’s mother gave up most of her custody several years ago and only has custody of Steph one weekend per month, which was what she requested, claiming she didn’t want more than that.
What would you have done if you were in her shoes?
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