Don’t Take The Decision To Get Married Lightly: Here Are The Most Important Questions To Ask Yourself Before Walking Down The Aisle And Saying “I Do”
One of the biggest decisions one makes is the decision to marry someone and share your future with them.
Everyone has their own views and opinions on marriage, but regardless of how you feel about it, it is a pretty big step to take in life.
It’s a decision you don’t want to make lightly, as marriage often affects your mental well-being, your financial situation, your stability, etc. Therefore, there are some things you definitely should be taking into consideration before getting married.
If you’re thinking about sharing your life with someone you’ve been with for a while or aren’t sure about the idea of marriage, here are some questions you should ask yourself before choosing to get married.
Do I feel like I have to get married more than I want to get married?
Old-fashioned social norms have left many of us believing that adult life is incomplete without marriage and children. It’s gotten to the point where even if some people don’t really want to get married or don’t like the idea of that level of commitment, they still feel pressured to go through with a big wedding and traditional ceremony.
Whether you feel pressured by friends, family, or society in general, you don’t have to get married if you don’t want to. The world will not change, and your potential to have a successful future will not crumble if you choose not to go through with a marriage ceremony.
You should only be getting married if you genuinely love the values and principles that come along with that kind of partnership.
Do I want a wedding more than I want to get married?
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Let’s be honest – weddings can be really, really awesome. A lot of us grow up dreaming about not finding the perfect spouse but of having the perfect wedding. I was one of those little girls who took comfort in imagining the kind of wedding I’d have, the dress I’d wear, and the venue I’d choose.
But then, as you grow up and life goes on, your views on marriage may change, but your desire to have a big, fun wedding doesn’t.
If you are with someone who you really love and care about and are committed to but don’t want to get married, you can have a commitment ceremony! A commitment ceremony is an excuse to have a big celebration that’s a lot like a wedding; only you don’t get legally married to your partner.
There are ways to have a big celebration that’s a lot like your dream ‘wedding’ without the marriage part.
Am I prepared for the challenges?
This is perhaps the biggest thing to consider before marrying someone and starting a family with them. Marriage is often romanticized, and it can be hard not to want to get married after you see a lot of your friends and family do it.
But here’s the thing – even if you’ve been through a lot with your partner and have already faced a lot of issues together, marriage comes with its own unique set of challenges. You have to be prepared to put in the work, effort, and commitment it takes to keep a marriage healthy.
There are few things more upsetting than when a couple makes beautiful vows on their wedding day and begins to break them time after time as marriage progresses. What’s the point of getting married if you’re not going to do whatever you can to stick by that person through hard times?
People are not perfect, and obviously, there are circumstances in which supporting your spouse is the last thing on your mind. You just have to remember to be prepared to take on the challenges of marrying and sharing a future with someone.
We can’t always know for sure whether or not we’re making the right decision, but the moral of the story is that you have to take a lot into consideration before walking down the aisle. Take all the time you need to decide if you think married life is right for you. Good luck!
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