Her Fiancé Doesn’t Believe In Telling Their Future Children About Santa, And She Thinks That Will Ruin The Magic Of Christmas

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This 21-year-old girl has a fiancé the same age as her, and they have been together for five years now.

They only recently got engaged, and so, that has inspired them to talk more about their future children.

They’ve chatted about when they should try to start having children and other things regarding kids in general, but given that the holiday season is almost upon us, their conversations have turned to Santa.

“I’ve known for the entirety of our relationship that his parents did not let him believe in Santa Claus,” she explained.

“This was mainly his mother’s decision. She said that she couldn’t imagine lying to her children about anything, including/especially Santa Claus.”

“I grew up believing in Santa Claus and it was one of my favorite things about the holidays, and in my opinion, made the holidays more magical. We only recently decided that we definitely wanted to have children, so this was not something we had considered earlier in our relationship.”

She does understand that some people aren’t exactly fortunate, and so they are not able to purchase expensive or fancy gifts for their children.

That being said, she also gets that every parent has a right to raise their children however they think is best.

However, her fiancé is convinced that it is not ethical to lie to their children about a single thing, including Santa.

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She thinks that part of telling children about Santa protects their innocence, and it also makes the Christmas season far more magical.

Santa was the most special part of Christmas by far for her and for her sister, too.

“We loved going to bed and waiting for Santa to “come down the chimney” to drop off a present,” she said.

“We loved having the little Christmas elf hide around our house. We loved feeding the reindeer some bird seed that our parents had us throw in the yard. It was all-around magical for us.”

“I am somewhat saddened that my fiancé didn’t get this experience, but I’m not here to judge his upbringing or how his parents chose to raise him. We’ve been talking about how to approach the topic of Santa with our kids. One of his biggest concerns is that our kid will be “way too old” to believe in Santa but will never get the memo that Santa isn’t real.”

Her fiancé considers five to be too old to believe, by the way, which she doesn’t agree with. She figures that worst case scenario, if they do have children, they can always sit them down and tell them about how Santa is not real when the time comes.

She just doesn’t see how telling kids about Santa is anything but harmless, and she wants her future children to think Christmas is magical like she did.

She fails to see how that’s possible if they don’t teach their kids about Santa.

How do you think she and her fiancé can compromise on their differing viewpoints about Santa Claus?

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