Her Best Friend Kicked Her Out Of Her Bridal Party And Said She Was Trying To “Out Friend” The Other Girls On The Bachelorette Trip
This 26-year-old woman has a best friend named Sarah, who is the same age as her, and they have been close for more than ten years now.
They were basically glued to the hip when they were kids, but after they graduated from high school, they were no longer as close.
She went into the military while Sarah attended college. They briefly kept in contact as the years wore on, and they didn’t see one another in person very much throughout that time period.
As they drifted, she figured it was because their lives were no longer so similar. When she did visit Sarah, it was as if no time had elapsed at all, and there was no space between them.
Sarah got engaged a year ago, and they were both so elated. She only met the guy one time, but he seemed sweet, and she was just excited that Sarah was so overjoyed.
Then, Sarah asked her to be her bridesmaid and make-up artist for the wedding too. Last weekend was Sarah’s bachelorette party, and she left college on the opposite side of the country to be there for the festivities.
The trip lasted all weekend, and Sarah’s sisters and some of her friends came along too. She only knew Sarah and Sarah’s sisters; she did not know any of the other girls who were invited.
“It’s important to note that I am extremely socially awkward, but with the new medication I’m on, I talk and don’t know when to stop,” she explained.
“From my perspective everything is going great. I’m interacting with people, I go out of my way to be kind and considerate of everyone around me.”
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“I had no idea going into this that I was going to be sharing a room with four strangers, but despite my discomfort, I powered through.”
While on the bachelorette trip, she and Sarah had a huge heart-to-heart, and both said they wanted to be much more involved in one another’s lives, just like in old times.
At the end of the trip, she was proud to have stepped outside of her comfort zone, as she really interacted a lot with the other girls.
She hopped on a plane and headed home, and everything between her and Sarah seemed amazing.
The following morning, which was less than 24 hours after the bachelorette party had ended, Sarah said she had to call her.
She thought Sarah wanted to discuss makeup for her wedding, and when she picked up the phone, Sarah launched into saying she wrote all of her points down to discuss with her.
“This is the point where I panic,” she said. “I can hear in her tone that something [is] wrong. The conversation, if you could call it that, summarized was her telling me that I was a [trash] friend, that I didn’t try to get to know any of her friends, I was trying to “out friend” the other girls, and that she didn’t feel loved or supported by me.”
“She also made it a point to tell me I never tried to get to know her fiancé either, despite me only meeting him once briefly. She then told me that she no longer wanted me to be a part of her wedding because I no longer fit into her life because we are too different.”
“She said I could still come if I wanted to, but she would understand if I didn’t. In a later text message, she apologized for hurting my feelings and said, “I take responsibility for letting my feelings pile up over the years.”
Since that call with Sarah, she has replayed the entire bachelorette trip in her mind again and again, and she can’t see what she did wrong.
Her heart is completely shattered, knowing how Sarah really feels. It’s not so much that she got kicked out of the bridal party; it’s that Sarah threw her out like trash after their history.
She has spent thousands of dollars on plane tickets and other things for Sarah’s wedding, which just adds insult to injury.
She’s left wondering if she should still attend Sarah’s wedding as a guest or cut herself out of Sarah’s life for good.
What do you think she should do?
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