His Wife Left Him And Hasn’t Spoken To Him In A Year As She Was Finding Herself, And Now She Wants Him To Take Her Back
This 30-year-old man and his 26-year-old wife got married six years back. Now, he proposed to her after only four months of dating, and he knew it seemed fast, but it felt like the right thing for him to do.
He does have a son from a previous relationship who is now 8, and when he married his wife, their family grew from two to three.
Everything was amazing between him and his wife in the beginning, and when they learned they were going to have a baby together, they were overjoyed.
“Sadly, our baby was stillbirth, and that started the fast decline of our relationship,” he explained. “It sent her into an extreme depression.”
“It was like nothing could help it, and I was watching my beautiful wife die while still being perfectly physically healthy.”
“By the next few months, instead of waking up to her next to me, I woke up to a note [from] her telling me she was going to clear her head. One week, no response. Before I knew it, she came back—and retrieved half of her stuff. I was blocked on everything.”
It really did hurt him deeply. He had just lost his baby, and then he lost his wife two months after that.
He started to become severely depressed, and he tried his best to hide that from his son. His life was super difficult, he dropped a ton of weight, and he was living like he was on autopilot.
Eventually, things improved for him as he reconnected with his closest friends and reentered society, so to speak.
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He waited for his wife to come home, but she never did. So then he waited around and wondered when she would serve him with a divorce, but that never came either.
“And you want to know who showed up at my doorstep at 5 am this weekend?” he asked. “My wife.”
“There were so many things I wanted to say to her. I wanted to know if she was okay. I wanted to beg her to come back, but at the same time, I wanted to tell her to leave and never come back.”
“She came in and said that she spent the last 8 months 300 miles away and said she wanted to work on us.”
He couldn’t help but smile, and he still felt like there was something there with them. But as he caught sight of himself in a mirror, it dawned on him that he was being ridiculous.
His wife came home and knew he would welcome her back with no problem, and he did. He has empathy for how hard it was on his wife to lose their baby, and he could tell it impacted her deeply, but that’s not an excuse for leaving him and not speaking to him for a whole year.
It seems like his wife avoided her trauma by literally leaving and not dealing with it. When he saw her, she appeared to be well, and she mentioned she had been in therapy.
She also has been spending a lot of time in nature, finding herself all over again, which is why she says she left to begin with.
However, she could have texted him sometime over the last year to check on him or say hello, but she didn’t.
“I understand she was too hurt to probably realize I was hurting too, but I was the one who had to sort through all of our child’s things after she left,” he added.
“I left the nursery up for 6 months before taking it down. I had to deal with all of that alone, and it was so hard. The only other person that could understand how I felt left.”
In the end, he knew he could not forgive his wife right then and there for what she did, so he informed her that she had to leave his house.
But he’s still wondering if he should try with his wife, and he’s leaning towards taking her back. They used to be so happy and so madly in love, and that’s what’s making him consider giving his wife another chance.
Do you think he should?
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