She’s Convinced Her Fiancé Is Embarrassed By Her Appearance, Since He Always Brings Up How His Ex Was A Trophy Wife
This 28-year-old woman and her 41-year-old fiancé have spent the last four years together, and prior to her being in her fiancé’s life, he was married.
Her fiancé was married to his ex-wife for quite a long time, and when she first started dating her fiancé, he would constantly talk about his ex.
“He used to tell me she was a real blonde, that he used to view her as his trophy wife, that he spoiled her, and much more,” she explained.
“She’s older than me, but really fit and put together. They have no kids together. He eventually stopped talking about her, but what he said always stuck with me.”
As time went on, she started to be super self-conscious, as she would think about what her fiancé used to say about his attractive ex.
One time after her fiancé had a few too many drinks, he admitted to her that he would never want to be in a relationship with a woman he considered to be fat.
And recently, she feels like she is fat. She has battled PCOS for the last year, and she has put on a ton of weight because of it.
She also has developed acne, lost more than half of the hair she has on her head, and suffered from other awful symptoms.
Her mental health has also been negatively impacted along with these serious changes her body has undergone.
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She does have a team of doctors helping her work through PCOS, but they can’t help her control every little change she’s experiencing.
As she’s been going through this, she can’t help but feel as if her fiancé has fueled her being incredibly self-conscious.
“It is really frustrating remembering certain things he said about his “perfect” ex-wife who was all that, then you have me…The complete opposite of a trophy wife,” she said.
“I am constantly scared that he’s going to cheat on me because of my appearance that is falling apart. I suspect that he’s ashamed of me because of my appearance, but he doesn’t want to admit it.”
“I’m not as perfect as his ex-wife, I’m not blonde, I’m not put together, I’m far away from being fit, and all the things he used to tell me about her are making me feel like he’s ashamed of me.”
Also, her fiancé has stopped complimenting her like he did in the past. He would always say she’s hot, pretty, and attractive to him, but he doesn’t say that now.
It’s really destroying her to no longer get paid these kinds of compliments from him, and any time she does attempt to address this, he claims she’s making things up in her own head.
What advice do you have for her?
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